In many countries, there are and still exist rules when parents themselves decide the fate of their children and find a suitable couple for them. Most often, young people do not even meet with each other until the wedding.
There are times when young people have freedom of choice, but without a parental blessing they can not be married and none of the young people has the right to disobey their parents.
Some people do not understand how to marry without having a parental blessing. Perhaps this is better, because according to statistics, marriages concluded under the strict guidance of parents are the strongest and the number of divorces is minimal.
Strong marriages are now very rare, because young people are in a hurry to make independent decisions and act on instant desire. Of course, this does not mean that now it is necessary to strictly follow the instructions of parents, but still sometimes you need to listen to their opinion and advice, because they do not want bad.
It is on this principle that families are created in Belarus. Here, for young people, they never set limits on their personal choices, but without a parental blessing, marriages are not concluded, and this is happening to the present.
Marriage is a responsibility that young people must understand and besides, early marriages imply a financial dependence of young people on their parents, because they themselves can not support themselves fully.
In this regard, parents very rarely consent to early marriages, in order to enable children to first stand on their feet, and only then think about the family. Young people in Belarus can not disobey their parents and no longer insist on their decision.
Like all parents, Belarusians are trying to prepare a decent dowry for their daughters. The son must be the head of the family, so all financial issues fall on him. Before you marry your son, parents do their best to build a separate house for a young family.
The financial situation of both families, both on the part of the young man and the girl, is often of great importance, and each side always knows quite a lot about each other. Marriages by calculation in Belarus are also not excluded, but still more important are the feelings of young people.
In most cases, parents know about whom their children meet long before young people express a desire to create a family and by that time the decision of the parents can be ready.
Belarusian families have never been numerous. This could meet very rarely and then only in well-off families. Currently, the Belarusian family does not exceed five or six people. The head of the family is a man, only he takes all decisions, and all the other members of the family must obey him, the property in most cases is transferred only through the male line.
However, women in Belarus have a high enough value. Despite the fact that women can not receive an inheritance, they play an important role in the home, in family relationships. The wife of the owner of the house is the hostess and she is engaged in all organizational matters of economic affairs, if in the house besides her live also other women, daughters-in-law.
Home affairs in the Belarusian family are strictly divided into men’s and women’s affairs. The woman is fully in charge of the household, she is responsible for the internal family relations and ensures that normal relations develop between the daughters-in-law. If there is a woman or daughter-in-law in the house other than the hostess, the youngest always helps the hostess with breakfast, before the rest of the family wakes up.
Preparing food in a Belarusian family is quite a serious matter, because it is precisely how the mistress is managing with the preparation of food and how much she is a good cook drawn to the attention of all family members.
The situation of a woman who always rises before all other family members is invariable for any nationalities and countries. In the Belarusian family, men also rise in the morning much later and after breakfast are engaged in their work.
Regarding the relationship between the spouses in Belarus, but here everything basically depends on the nature, both men and women. There are families in which relations between spouses are respectful and they perfectly understand each other. Love and harmony in relationships are the best that you can wish for a strong family.
However, there may be exceptions, when a man can not always handle a woman correctly. It is not uncommon for a woman to keep herself, in order not to respond to male rudeness, which leads to scandals. Everything is possible and everything happens in family relationships, when the character of people is far from perfect.
Sons in Belarus are heirs and successors of the clan, but if a girl is born, it causes no less joy than the birth of a boy. Simply, the son is more important for the family, because inheritance rights are transferred only through the male line.
According to ancient traditions at birth, boys are given a shirt that is intended for the girl and vice versa. This is done so that when a child grows up, he enjoys attention from the opposite sex.
For the Belarusians, the godparents are very important for their children, who can be chosen from both relatives and neighbors. If another child is born, for him the godparents are chosen from the same family as the first.
The baptisms of children are held in accordance with all the traditions that were established many years ago and have survived to this day. The godparents wish much happiness and wealth to their godchildren and perform a series of rituals.
Almost all the upbringing of children falls on the shoulders of a woman, the father takes part in the education of only sons and only after they reach the age when they can already be trained in men’s work and pass on family traditions and customs.