Modern science provides a solution for those couples who can not acquire offspring. It is a surrogate motherhood, the use for the bearing of a fetus by an extraneous woman. This method has long been used in the world as a treatment for infertility.

The topic is quite debatable in society. For some, this way of conceiving a child is criminal, but there are those who see this as their only chance. Surrogate motherhood is a new phenomenon that has many nuances and questions. It’s no wonder that it has been overgrown with a string of myths, both biological and legal.


Correctly write – a surrogate or a mockery.

In ads, you can find references to searches for a surrogate or a maternal mother. They say about the maternity. In fact, it’s worth paying homage to the grammar. The word “surrogate” means an inferior substitute. That is, it is a mother who simply replaces her own. Such a woman has nothing genetically in common with her fetus.

The child to be born will have the blood of a surrogate mother.

The truth is that the blood system of the surrogate mother and fetus does not communicate with each other. So between them there is not the same blood relationship, which is written by many professionals and researchers of this subject.

A child born to a surrogate mother will look like her.

This will not happen if, of course, it’s not really her own child.

Surrogate mother, in fact, gives her own child.

This is a delusion that can be realized only when introducing a program of traditional surrogate motherhood. It is officially legalized in many countries, including the United States. There, a surrogate mother, she is also a reproductive person, acts as an egg donor. She is subjected to artificial insemination with the sperm of the customer. And in the reproductive clinic it will be the surrogate mother, and not the infertile couple. In this situation, according to the legislation in force in Russia, the birth certificate will include the names of the biological father (if he recognizes the fact of paternity) and the reproductive mother. But in Russia such a situation is impossible, so if such an option is proposed, this indicates the incompetence of the party that provides the legal part.

Surrogate mother actually refuses the child in the hospital.

You can not give up what you do not actually own. At the birth of a child, a surrogate mother should immediately consent to the entry in the birth book of the names of the child’s biological parents. This consent is usually given in writing and is confirmed by the seal of that medical institution where the birth took place. The document is also signed by the authorized person.

Only married couples can use the services of surrogate mothers.

The Family Code of the Russian Federation establishes that a legal marriage is only one of the conditions for recording a parent in a birth record book in a registry office. You can draw an analogy with adoption – this procedure is not allowed for persons who are not married. So to use surrogate mother stamp in the passport is not needed, it will be required when registering the child in the registry office. If the parents by that time will not be in the official marriage, then the mother in the documents will be written surrogate mother. So you still have to sign, why not do it before the beginning of such a responsible program. Under the laws of the Russian Federation, a single woman has the full right to artificial insemination or implantation of a child. If she has medical evidence, she can resort to the help of a surrogate mother to carry her child. Then at birth, it is the biological mother that will be recorded in the documents. And here the consent of the surrogate mother is required for the implementation of such a record.

A woman who already has at least two children can become a surrogate mother.

In the documents of the Ministry of Health of Russia it is stated that a person with one child may well become a surrogate mother.


The surrogate mother has three days to decide to leave the child to herself.

The law does not specify the period during which the surrogate mother must give her consent to write to the book of births of biological parents. This consent can be given at any time after delivery and before discharge. Usually this period is exactly three days. But even later consent will not prevent the registration of the child. By law, this must be done within a month after birth.

If a surrogate mother decides to keep a child, then it only remains to accept it.

By law, it is possible to challenge not only paternity, but also motherhood. Therefore, it is possible to challenge the entry in the birth book, although it is already in the judicial order. Initiate this process may be a person who is in fact the father of the child. Here you will need numerous documents from lawyers who are involved in the legal provision of surrogate motherhood.

Surrogate motherhood is inherently immoral and contrary to God’s will.

Even in the Bible it is described how two biblical characters, Abraham and Jacob, also used the services of surrogate mothers. Only such narrow-minded believers can condemn such a process, which even the Bible did not read. God gave man the opportunity to reproduce, including with the help of science.

Surrogate motherhood is enjoyed by those who do not want to waste time on bearing and spoiling their figure.

This statement is far from reality. In fact, women who have serious pathologies of the uterus are forced to take such a step, or if they do not exist at all, and if numerous attempts to get pregnant with IVF failed. Addressing the services of a surrogate mother is not an unwillingness of pregnancy, but, alas, it is completely impossible. Everyone who turns to such services, in fact, faced a great grief. And only with the help of surrogate motherhood the couple gets a chance to raise their own child. And do not think that for biological parents this procedure is simple. The very “conception” involves a rather aggressive intervention in the body of a woman. And it is not known what it is fraught with in the future. That is why there is no point in talking about saving time or preserving the figure.

Surrogacy is very expensive.

They say that for the services of a surrogate mother it is necessary to pay almost an apartment in Moscow. In fact, these statements look fantastic. The whole procedure, even with full support, will be much cheaper. And often surrogate mothers are offered by their own will to become relatives.

Surrogate motherhood is an illegal method.

In 2011, the law “On the fundamentals of protecting the health of citizens of the Russian Federation” was adopted. He was actively discussed in the press, which allowed raising the awareness of citizens. Naturally, surrogate motherhood is quite a legitimate procedure, since even show business stars openly use it. And lawyers would not have accompanied an openly illegal case.

Surrogate mothers often leave the child themselves.

Legal norms do allow a surrogate mother to keep her child. After all, that in the birth certificate recorded biological parents, the consent of the surrogate mother is required. In theory, it may well not be allowed to do so. In practice, this is very rare. The whole procedure is based on a contract, where the rights and obligations of the parties are clearly stated. This allows you to observe the interests of all participants in the process. You must also confirm the contract with the surrogate material from the notary. In fact, such a notarization will not give the contract additional legal force. That is why such a step does not have any practical meaning.

It is better not to resort to such a complicated procedure, but simply adopt a child.

Who among us does not dream of a baby who would take our features would be like grandparents. Adoption, on the other hand, means taking a completely alien child for upbringing, with a different set of genes different from the family. This is quite serious and not everyone can decide this step. So in this case, the only way to extend the genus is surrogate motherhood.

If the reproductive female indicators are normal, and the age does not allow birth, then you will have to give up the dream of having a baby.

Today, by itself, age is not a verdict. Women acquire surrogate motherhood of children after 50. For such a procedure, the main thing is that at least one viable egg is ripe in the body. It is also possible to freeze the biological material in advance, in order to later resort to it. That’s exactly what Alla Pugacheva did, her plan was successfully realized.

To give birth even with the help of a surrogate mother after 40 years is risky.

And this is the truth. If the biological mother is already waiting for a menopause, the risk of the birth of a child with an abnormal development will be as high as if she was born on her own. It is good that today there are methods of prenatal diagnosis that allow in time to recognize the genetic background of the embryo and to identify violations.

Children born to a surrogate mother are different from those born naturally.

This is not true, such children do not differ from ordinary ones. Even on the contrary, their health is constantly monitored by doctors. Even in preparation for pregnancy, biological parents and a surrogate mother are checked. The entire process of bearing a child and childbirth is under the close supervision of specialists, which only increases the chances of a healthy person.


For this procedure, an egg can be used for a surrogate mother, and not for a biological mother.

In this case, the surrogate mother would give her genes to the child, becoming his own. In cases where it is not possible to use the egg for a woman seeking help, they resort to the services of a donor. The very idea of ​​surrogate motherhood is that a child with a relative set of genes is born to a childless couple. And the process of fertilization here is similar to IVF. The biological mother undergoes hormone therapy, which stimulates the maturation of the follicles. When they reach the right size, then under general anesthesia, a puncture is taken. The taken egg is fertilized with male embryos and after 3-5 days embryos are transplanted to the surrogate mother.

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