– a permanent alliance between a man and a woman for the purpose of creating a family and procreation; enjoys protection and protection of laws only when committed according to known forms, subject to the conditions established in laws; entails known legal consequences in the field of personal and property rights and duties of spouses in relation to each other and to children (the right to maintenance, inheritance, etc.).
Marriage is granted in general to the free will of individuals, but it requires: 1) a certain age, we are not over 80 liters. and not younger: for a woman – 16 and a man – 18 liters. 2) Mutual agreement of the spouses; 3) the consent of parents, guardians and for military personnel and superiors. Obstacles to marriage are: 1) illness, for example, mental disorder; 2) kinship and property, in the Orthodox in a straight line in all degrees of kinship and in the lateral up to 1 degree inclusive; property up to -1; 3) the state in another marriage; Christianity admits only unity; not allowed to enter into the 4th marriage; 4) the difference of religion; in Russia marriages of Christians are not allowed, with non-Christians; 5) public status vocation, for example, monasticism. Marriage is terminated by death, divorce and termination by court.
To create a family, love alone is enough.
Only love should not be the cause of marriage. More importantly, do you have the same ideas about life and what you would like to achieve together. Before deciding to get married, think about what, besides love, you are united.
In the beginning, the shy girl, for example, will be delighted with her bold, relaxed elect, who is always at the center of attention. But over time, she, preferring cozy homemade evenings together, for sure will not be happy with a person who likes to hang out late with friends.
If sex is good, then everything is fine.
This is not true. Passion itself is a very fragile foundation. More important is trust, understanding, on which family relations should be built.
The husband must match my ideal.
In your desire to fit the husband to the ideal you created, you refuse to accept any qualities of the spouse that do not correspond to the imaginary image, let alone weakness.
People get used to each other.
If some traits of your chosen character (for example, stinginess) irritate you, then signing at the registry office, you yourself are signing yourself a sentence for divorce. Initially, internal discontent is eclipsed by love, but over time it will manifest itself brighter. You can not change your character.
Children usually bring their spouses together and fill their family life with happiness.
Studies show that the appearance of the first child is often associated with stress and separation of parents from each other. However, the percentage of divorces is lower for couples with children than for families without children.
The most important thing in a happy family life is good luck and love.
The main reasons for a happy marriage are the ability to yield, the ability to take responsibility and similar values. The happiest couples are close friends who have similar interests and life priorities.
He will make me happy, and I will make him happy.
Do not think that your husband is obligated to make you happy. To achieve a harmonious relationship in the family, you do not mind the share of reasonable selfishness. This means that it is you who should create your happiness. After all, if you are happy, then your husband too! And he, in his turn, must also work on his happiness.
The more educated a woman, the more difficult it is for her to marry.
Today, a woman who has received a higher education is more likely to marry than her former classmate who did not enter the university, although educated women get married later. In the past, an educated woman was less likely to marry.
Married people are less satisfied with their sex lives and have fewer sexual contacts than people outside of marriage.
According to studies, in married people, sex is better and more than in their unmarried brethren. Sex in their lives is not only more often – they get more pleasure, both physical and emotional.
Money is not important, the main thing is love.
Constant concern for daily bread is destructive for family relationships. And even a great love of this gravity can not stand it. Financial problems select the space that is necessary for attention to each other.
Men get more benefits from marriage.
Both men and women derive the same benefits from marriage, although this happens in different ways. Most men and women have a longer, happy and fulfilling life if they are married. Men gain more health benefits, and women – financially.
Cohabitation is the same as marriage, but without a stamp in the passport.
Cohabitation, as a rule, does not bring those positive moments in terms of health, wealth and emotional state, which are peculiar to life in marriage. If to compare, then people living in a civil marriage are more like loners than married people.
Couples who lived together before marriage are much more successful than people who did not live in a civil marriage.
Many studies indicate that people who live together in a civil marriage are not so happy after legal registration, on the contrary, they are more likely to part. The main reason is rather not that, having undertaken obligations and facing difficulties, a person seeks to get rid of them. The very fact of living together, life, can lead to difficulties in the relationship. According to a recent study, couples living in a civil marriage have less motivation to resolve conflicts and support each other.
Nowadays people can not live together all their lives as before, because now people live much longer.
This opinion is groundless. The increase in life expectancy is due to a sharp reduction in infant mortality. And despite the fact that the life expectancy of adults is greater than that of their grandparents, marriage in their lives occurs much later. In addition, the duration of a typical marriage without divorce has not changed much in the last 50 years. In addition, many couples end the relationship long before the golden wedding: half of all divorces are couples who have lived less than seven years.
Having married, a woman is much more at risk of becoming a victim of domestic violence.
Despite the assumption that formal marriage registration literally unties a man’s hands, studies show that, being unmarried, and especially living in a civil marriage, the risk for a woman to become a victim of domestic violence is much higher. One of the reasons for such results may be the fact that married women hide the facts of domestic violence. Moreover, a woman will sooner divorce from an aggressive, cruel man, rather than marry such. In addition, it is possible that, living in an official marriage, a man cares more about the well-being of his family and is more open to society.
Because of the large number of divorces that destroy unhappy families, people who are still married have much happier families than our ancestors who lived together, no matter how bad the marriage was.
The results of the latest study show that the overall level of happiness in families has not increased, and even slightly decreased. Some studies have revealed that in modern families, compared to marriages 20-30 years ago, more stresses associated with work, more conflicts and less understanding between spouses.
Some other things in your life will certainly change for the better.
It’s not forbidden to dream! But if you think logically, then the marriage is not able, for example, to make your work more interesting, either your sister is less selfish, or your mother is more understanding. Yes, and you perfectly understand everything, just all the newlyweds are waiting for miracles, changes for the better!