Does anxiety prevent you from enjoying life? The following advice, many of which were justified by the American psychologist Dale Carnegie, will prove useful to you. Get rid of a chronic sense of anxiety forever.
Live for today.
Separate not only from the past, but from the future. If you are worried about long-ago events or events, which, perhaps, will never happen, then there will not be enough nerves. Let your future be today. Instead of worrying about the things that you will do in the distant (or not so distant) future, it is better to concentrate on the current problems to the maximum possible extent and resolve all issues in the best possible way. Find answers to the following questions: – Do I often worry about my future? – Do I often worry about things that can not be fixed? – do I wake up with the idea that I need to make the most of the cases in one day? – if you do not care about the problems of the past or the future, then do I feel better? Asking yourself all these questions, you must decide on the day, the code will begin to comply with this rule.
Find what to do.
Have you noticed that you are not able to concentrate on several thoughts at once? Each of us at a particular moment of time is able to concentrate only on one thought, but this state of things is also characteristic of the world of emotions. No one can suffer at the same time from the feeling of unease that exhausts him and engage in something very interesting: one type of emotion necessarily dominates. In other words, negative and positive emotions will not get along with each other in any situation. Now there is even such a thing as “employment therapy”. The medicine in this case is work, every free minute of the patients occupy one or another activity, as a result of which they simply do not have time to worry about what happened. So instead of falling into despair, it’s better to plunge your head into work.
Remember that small things are not a valid reason for losing emotional balance.
Life is not so long to waste it on worrying over trifles. Answer frankly the question: “And how likely is the occurrence of the event, about which I am so worried?”. If something has already happened or will inevitably happen, then try to reconcile as quickly as possible. This is the first step towards a quiet life.
Be able to stop on time.
Answer the following three questions. The first: “How important is the object of my concern in reality?”. The second: “When is it best to stop with a matter that makes me very worried?”. Third: “Does my board exceed the real cost?”. We all have to be able to determine which things are a vital value, we must learn to understand the real measure of things. This is the way to our peace of mind.
“Do not saw sawdust”.
What does this mean? And this means that you “saw sawdust”, when a lot of times you experience the past events. If the milk is spilled, it can not be returned. Is it worth remembering him if he is no longer there? Should I worry about it if the milk does not appear in the bottle anyway? We need to accept this as a reality and calm down.
Control your thoughts.
Our thoughts are our mood. If thoughts are gloomy, a person feels unhappy, if the thoughts are joyful, then the person is happy. If a person thinks about getting sick, then this is hardly avoidable. If a person is sure that he will achieve the fulfillment of his dream, then surely it will. “You are what you think about,” – said Normale Peel. And maybe you should think about this phrase? If there is a problem, you need to take care, but do not worry about it. There is a fundamental difference between concern and concern.Anxiety leads to the fact that our activities begin to resemble “the dance of a cat around hot porridge”, concern allows us to rationally treat the problem and quietly look for possible exits from the situation. Look at your life differently – maybe, for a sense of anxiety, you do not notice something very important. Think only of the light. Understand, life is beautiful.
Do not waste your time, let alone nerves, on those you do not like.
Enemies do not exist in order to get even with them. Your enemies are somebody’s friends. Just people are arranged in different ways, they have different worldviews and different interests. Acts are often associated with living conditions and some external factors. Do not judge people strictly, try to understand.
Ungratefulness from the people around you is no reason to worry.
Such is the nature of people, that many do not know how to be grateful. Gratitude in man needs to be educated. So, dear parents, take this to your notice and raise your children, able to thank for good.
Appreciate what you have.
We are so organized that we pursue wealth and become frustrated because of life’s trifles. Yes, even the loss of work – this is not a reason to become unhappy. Think about whether you would give your hands or feet for millions of dollars? Appreciate the fact that you are healthy. Do not count your misfortunes! Consider grace!
Where do complexes and neuroses come from? From a person’s unwillingness to represent what he represents. Do not live a stranger’s life, do not want to be someone else. Each person is unique, possesses those or other abilities, represents something new on our planet. Only not copying someone, but by adopting your own image, you will be able to achieve something outstanding at one of the wonderful moments. According to Alfred Adler – an outstanding psychologist – a person is able to “draw a minus in a plus”, and this is one of the most amazing of its features.
Difficulties harden a person.
Suppose we are at the mercy of a feeling of depression. Naturally, in such a mood it is difficult for us to make our view positive. However, there are at least two reasons why it is worth trying to change to a positive wave. First, success can be achieved. The second – in the event that success is not achieved, then our thoughts will still change for the better.
The main reason that leads to feelings of anxiety is uncertainty, ambiguity, in a word, confusion. Thus, in order to avoid the appearance of this feeling, it is first necessary to gather facts, secondly, to analyze them, and third, to make a decision. After the decision is made, immediately proceed with its implementation. In this simple scheme there is hardly a place for an alarm that will exhaust you.
Very good effect in terms of eliminating feelings of depression and anxiety gives you simple advice: think about how you can please your family, friends or friends and do it. It is good deeds that are the healers of a troubled soul, they direct our thoughts to noble and good deeds, thereby freeing us from negative attitudes.
Think less of yourself, spare yourself more, please others more! And what if your anxiety is due to the fact that you are worried about what others think about you. This problem can be considered in two ways.
On the one hand, a strong concern for how you stand in the light of your relatives, friends and colleagues, can lead to the fact that your life will practically cease to be so. Why? But after all, you only look outward, try to throw samples of someone’s actions on yourself, do not bother yourself to stay yourself and stop copying others.
Thus, you essentially limit your life.You forget about your own opinion, you are not trying to try to swim against the current, for you the opinion of others dominates over your own. If everything is so, then it’s time to say “Stop!”.
On the other hand, if you absolutely do not care about the opinion of others, then this is also not good. In this case, all your thoughts are focused on your beloved. You forget that actions performed by one person often have some effect on other people (including negative ones). As a result, you always voice your thoughts, not caring how others around them will perceive and what they think about you.
So, you need a golden mean. The most effective way to stop worrying about how others perceive your words or actions is to find an excuse for these words and actions. You must be able to explain them. If you make a decision independently, you do not reject opinions about it from other people, but you do not become a slave to what others think about all this.
After you have chosen your life path, find confirmation of its correctness for you, the more, the better. So you will become confident in your abilities. Appreciate how you make decisions, than you are guided by driving at the chosen rate. Just do not engage in self-deception, be as sincere as possible with yourself.
If you realize that you are not guided by those factors, then you should not panic. It is very good that you understood this. In this case, look for a new way where you will be guided only by the right reasons coming from your heart.