Wherever the fate of the Vietnamese has not abandoned, they still remain with their soul and heart with their relatives and friends and with their land on which they were born. Their society is built on the principle of “home-village-country.” This principle clearly shows the unity of people during various shocks and instability in society, all Vietnamese are trying, as they can support their loved ones and their home in difficult times.
Vietnamese families are created on the basis of centuries-old national traditions and basic social principles. Such an attitude is manifested in the fact that, wherever fate is, no matter what fate, he does not occupy a position in the society, whether he is a rich and famous person or an ordinary employee, and even if his destiny is taken by another country.
He always returns with pain and love to his native village or village, to his native home and his land. All this makes the family in Vietnam even stronger, where all national and religious customs are observed. Family relationships in Vietnam are a mutual affection between all members of the family: parents and children, brothers and sisters, grandparents.
Children in such families grow in perfect harmony and idyll of relations between parents, they live in love and tranquility and thus this attitude in the family develops in children themselves respect for the elders, for their relatives, they feel family warmth, learn to be independent and develop their cultural values. Of course, they, growing up, can not completely leave their home, a part of their soul still remains where they took their first steps.
A great intimacy in the relations of the spouses in Vietnam is given by their colorful beautiful fairy-tale ceremonies. One of the most ancient wedding traditions, when the bridegroom brings to his bride a gift of love, consisting of the fruit of a palm tree, the leaves of a tree of Trau and limestone, together with traditional fruits and tea.
According to an ancient belief, the wife could not wait for the war of her beloved husband. She came to the place where her husband died, fell to the ground and cried until she died of grief. After death, it turned into the tree of Trau, which was accustomed to the growing palm tree. Since then, it is customary to bring a symbol of love to the wedding ceremony, which according to belief serves as proof of real and strong love.
Earlier in the past, relations in the Vietnamese family developed in the oriental style, when the family established a more rigid relationship between parents and children, women and men, when the man was the most important person in the family. However, such relations hindered the development of man and Vietnamese families are now modern, excluded from their traditions what dragged this development back to primitive roots.
Women, unlike men, had less freedom, fewer rights, and accounted for the majority of the illiterate population. Over time, there were changes for the better, and the eastern traditions began to leave the everyday life of the Vietnamese family.
However, the woman still identifies the man as the head of the family, who solves the most important issues in the family, and the woman’s business is to maintain the heat of the hearth and family relations, to manage the economy and raise children.
Although the entire family structure preaches equality of the sexes, both spouses in the family must be equal, and should equally distribute household duties among themselves. In principle, this is happening in modern Vietnamese families, the spouses help each other in everything that concerns family and domestic affairs.
All management of the economy is divided into equal parts, the children are brought up by both parents, trying to give them as much attention as possible. And they give considerable attention to the further destiny of their children, trying to give them sufficient education so that the child can arrange his life without problems and do not need.
The birth of children in Vietnam is taken very seriously. Important points are the birth of a boy and the main thing is for the son to be born first.These traditions led to the fact that in the early stages of pregnancy they learned to determine the sex of the child, and if the girl could be born first, women did abortions.
If you pay attention to Vietnamese families, you can see this, so to meet a family in which two daughters or an only child is a girl, this is a big rarity. Basically, the first child is a son, the youngest is a daughter or in a family there are two boys. In this regard, there is a constant increase in the birth rate of boys in comparison with the birth rate of girls.
Vietnamese families live on the basis of five virtues, which include justice, nobility, humanity, knowledge and sincerity. And guided by such principles, the Vietnamese create really good and strong families, where respect, warmth, love and kindness reign. Honest sincere relations, not spoiled by deception and secrecy, the constant desire to learn more in life is their motto.
Vietnamese inherent in the cult of ancestors. The grave of the deceased person is always looked after. If, after the death of a person, there is no one to take care of him and no one to read it, it is considered that he is a man without offspring.
The Vietnamese have very developed feelings of veneration of their ancestors and their distant roots. Consequently, all Vietnamese try to maintain a kinship relationship, never lose contact with their home, the home of their ancestors, and they live not only for themselves, but also for posterity and the future, not only for their children and for the future of the whole society.
At present, Vietnamese marriages with foreigners are very frequent. Most often, such couples leave Vietnam, because each of the spouses has a slightly different view of society and family life and stay in Vietnam, with its centuries-old traditions may somewhat violate the stability in such an unequal marriage.
True, and in this case, the Vietnamese never forget their relatives, always have a connection with them and, if possible, come to their native land in order to breathe the energy of their native hearth where they can take the forces of their ancestors.
There are cases when the spouses return after a long absence in order to store the graves and memory of their ancestors and to show their children the love and kindness that all Vietnamese society carries in themselves.