Each of us seeks to create his own small world of happiness and comfort, in which love and kindness will always reign; his family, where mutual understanding will always prevail, and where each of the spouses will feel support for each other and know that you can always rely on your second half.
We also want the family to keep all the traditions that will be passed on from generation to generation, so that all family ties are always preserved, and everyone tries to strengthen the family ties even more.
Probably, there are no such ideal families, you will say. It is not always possible to meet with the spouses even elementary respect and a culture of communication. However, families in Germany can be exactly such an example of a highly cultured family for us, where mutual understanding and support from spouses always prevail. Accustomed Germans everywhere are trying to achieve the ideal, even in family relationships, in the upbringing of children, in work and study.
Before formalizing a relationship, a couple in Germany can live together for a considerable amount of time in order to test their feelings, possibilities, how they fit together in everyday life and in cohabitation. Only after such a lengthy inspection is made the decision to formalize the relationship and create a full-fledged family and have a baby.
German families mostly live in their own homes. After the couple formalizes their relationship, the spouses begin to equip their homes and, above all, carefully choose a house or apartment, as housing is chosen in Germany for life.
Particular attention is paid to the internal situation of the house: it is important for every German that his house is always beautiful, cozy and the house pleases the eye with its cleanliness. Even when the guests come, the owners of the house always ask them to put on slippers, in order not to damage the shiny floors.
Every thing in the house of a German family is in its right place, nothing should disturb the overall design of the room, everything should be in a strictly defined place. Getting into the house of a German family, you feel a little uncomfortable because there is an ideal order, which is terrible to break and you do not even want to move from your place.
If there is a small child in the house, you will not find scattered toys or children’s things anywhere: all the toys stand on the shelves, all the children’s things lie where they can be taken at any time as necessary.
However, despite this order in the house, Germans are very easy to communicate with people, and they are very fond of hosting guests in their home. In addition, the Germans are very fond of doing something for the house with their own hands, different crafts and souvenirs, and this love is taught to their children.
Young people in Germany, having barely reached the age of majority, leave the parental home and begin an independent life. Since that moment they are obliged to support themselves, to seek a home for which they will also pay out of their earned money. As a consequence, it often happens that the Germans combine their studies with work in order to pay for their living in a rented apartment.
To apply for help to parents, of course, is not prohibited, but financial assistance is given only as a debt that must necessarily be returned. As a result, the Germans have to work very hard for both men and women. The Germans are very economical people, they keep records of their expenses and always spend their money very rationally, only on the most necessary things.
The family for the Germans is of great importance, and they are always all kinship ties, regardless of the distance from each other’s relatives and friends. The family always celebrates all the holidays together, gathering in the same house.
However, at other times in order to visit the home of their parents, the children need to specify in advance the time of their arrival, otherwise they may not even be allowed to enter the threshold.This is a normal feature of the behavior of the Germans, because in Germany it is not customary to depend on parents who have their own lives.
After the children leave the parental home, the parents themselves just begin their full-fledged free life, when they can afford what they could not afford while raising a child. They often start spending time together, go on weekends and holidays outside the city, meet with their friends and travel to resorts and abroad.
The choice of a couple of men or women in Germany is carried out independently, parents do not dictate their will to them. Even if parents do not like the choice of their son or daughter, they will not discourage their child and the attitude of his parents will not change at all. This again is due to the fact that the adult person himself makes decisions and lives alone, not counting on anyone’s help.
Naturally, the couple who formalizes the marriage, all the costs of the wedding party takes over, as well as all the costs associated with buying a house or apartment, arranging their homes, buying a car and others, all this is paid only from the pockets of the spouses, but not with the money of their parents. In this regard, almost all German families live in debt with banks, buying a house and cars on credit.
The birth of a child in a German family can create some difficulties due to the fact that after the mother’s parental leave expires, it needs to be placed somewhere for the duration of the parents’ work. The fact is that grandparents categorically refuse to sit with the child, they are not ready to take on this responsibility and deprive themselves of freedom.
Naturally, they can if they want to take the child for a walk or for a short time, but to sit whole days with the baby is not for them. Because of this difficult situation, young parents have to adjust and sit with the child in turn or hire a nanny. Children are brought up so that they grow up independent, but also parents try to always be aware of the whole life of their child.