At present, many families have preserved families in many countries, who carefully preserve all ancient customs and traditions, pass on to their children and grandchildren the foundations of a national, traditional family and can not accept the present-day influence of society.
There are families in which, on the contrary, all these traditions begin to gradually die and remain only in the memory or the history of the family. Such modern families have already fully accepted all the gifts that the civilized world carries with them.
The Chinese family is different in that it has a pronounced contrast between modern life and ancient family traditions. Despite the actions of modern culture, China has not abandoned traditions that are not stored in hundreds, but in thousands of years, and which can not simply be taken and forgotten.
According to old Chinese customs and superstitious views, the head of the family should be a man, in his lifetime to see his children, especially sons, adults, to see how they create a family, raise their children, grandchildren. It turns out that the head of the family should live up to his great-grandchildren and see them with his own eyes, if possible. He should in every possible way try to make sure that his family does not interrupt.
For the continuation of the family, of course, the son is responsible, because a daughter in China, after getting married, leaves her parents’ house and leaves for her husband’s family. The son must continue to continue the family and in his family there must necessarily be a son who also in turn will continue the family.
As a consequence, in China, the number of men prevails over the number of women, and in each family there must necessarily be a son. The woman takes the husband’s surname, and she will not care about her parents and relatives, but about her husband’s family.
This is due to the fact that in China it is accepted to honor deceased relatives, and only a male representative can look after his ancestors. For what would have happened, who cares about the head of the family in the future, he should leave behind him who will do it, arrange sacrifices, honor the memory of the deceased.
Given such characteristics, it can be said that a large family in China is a real blessing. If the family has no children, if the woman is infertile, then she does not deserve the respect of her relatives and the society as a whole. A woman who could not have children could not be a good housewife, and this could be the reason for divorce, because she does not deserve to be in the family of her husband.
All these traditions and customs have been preserved in China to the present day. Women are treated with respect only if she is capable of giving birth to a boy. The birth of a son is a great joy in the family, because in this case it will be possible to transfer all knowledge and customs to him, he is able to honor his ancestors.
If a girl was born, it does not bring anything good, because she will grow up and leave the family, no one will pass on all family traditions. Because of this, now many women in China even refuse to give birth to their daughters in the maternity home, in every possible way they try to get rid of the born girls.
Such cruel laws applied to women, it would seem, are impossible in our time, because even violent Muslim laws are now starting to give up their positions a little. They are cruel to women in China, and especially in rural areas.
There are cases when the born girls are strangled and commit various machinations with women and newborn children. The time when you can already determine the sex of a child for a woman becomes the most terrible moment in life, and often they themselves already determine in advance the fate of a newborn girl.
As a result of such practices, the population growth in China is increasing every year, because women are trying to give birth to a boy so that he can continue his family and take care of his ancestors. Respect in the family deserves only the son, daughters are subjected to discrimination as well as the mother.
Although in order to marry your daughter you do not need to spend a lot of money, because all the expenses are usually borne by the family of the future spouse. In this respect, the girl’s parents can not worry. It is enough just to prepare a modest dowry.
For this reason, the Chinese government now pays particular attention to the number of children in the family and the presence of more than one child is simply not permissible. There is a law of family planning and those families that adhere to this law can receive various benefits.
Those who are against this law may be subject to fines and may simply be tortured with huge taxes. On the one hand, this is the correct approach of China, because it is impossible to provide so many people with jobs and housing.
Large families in China suffer from poverty and unemployment. There is no possibility to get a good enough education, because there is not enough money for this. On the other hand, ancient centuries-old traditions and customs can not be eliminated overnight, and the government will have to struggle for such a long time with such cruel laws.
In China, there are still preserved ancient wedding traditions, which many families still adhere to. Traditionally in China, the wedding day of young people is appointed by a holy man, a fortune-teller, who defines a happy day in which young people can marry.
As is customary on the wedding night, young people must perform various ceremonies, burn incense, worship ancestors, bow to their ancestors and offer prayers to heaven and earth. Young people in China crawl together on their knees in a cave where they should drink a “drink of descendants” and perform other rituals.
According to tradition, from the moment when the parents agree on the wedding, and up to the day of the wedding itself, the young perform a lot of all ancient rituals, which take a lot of energy. Today, the observance of such an ancient custom has survived, but now the cost of all these rituals has also increased significantly and the preparation for the wedding now takes much longer.