Armenia is one of the countries of Asia, in which large families still exist, the number of members in which can reach fifty people. This is very rare today, but still it exists, and it would be nice if it were preserved for a long time.
Each family member, depending on his age, has his rights and responsibilities in Armenia. However, the main thing is that the elders always take care of the younger generation and support them in every possible way and help them.
As in many families, parents and older sons live in the same house. Daughters accordingly always leave the parental home in the husband’s house, where they are expected by a new life and new responsibilities.
The head of the family or community is the oldest man in the family, the owner of the house. However, in the Armenian family there are some differences in the fact that the owner can dispose of all the property that belongs to the family and, in addition, the fate of each member of the family.
The owner of the house has unlimited power, so every member of the family tries to always follow all the instructions of the elder. There is even something, like inside the family etiquette, which affects certain norms of behavior.
For example, at the moment when the host appears in the room, all present must rise and bow; no one has the right to start a conversation without the permission of the elder, you can not smoke in his presence. In addition, the owner is always the very first to sit at the table and go to sleep.
In addition to the owner of the house in Armenia, the eldest woman in the house, the mistress of the house, enjoys the same rights and authority. If the owner of the house manages all the work that men do in the family, the landlady of the house directs all women’s affairs accordingly.
Each daughter-in-law in this case has a circle of her personal duties, which are distributed evenly. Work is always enough and young women have very little free time, which they can spend on themselves.
In addition to domestic cares, there are also children who also require a lot of attention. The hostess of the house is that person, on whom the fate of her sons always depends. Only she makes a decision about the marriage of her son and chooses his wife on his own.
The same applies to daughters who do not have the right to refuse the groom chosen by the mother. Not to the owner, but to the hostess always treated matchmakers who gifted the woman with gifts and asked for the hands of her daughter.
Most of the cares, housework and housework fall on the shoulders of younger daughters-in-law, and the most free women in the house are not married daughters, who spend most of their time preparing their dowries and helping their daughters a little.
In relations between husband and wife, the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law in Armenia, there is such a moment that they do not call each other by name. Names can be replaced with words such as “brother”, “sister”, “daughter” or “son”. This is a kind of avoidance of family ties.
This can also include a characteristic attitude towards a woman when young daughters-in-law, getting into the husband’s family, enjoy very limited rights and can not even talk and show their face, the parents of their own husband, not to mention outsiders.
Armenian families are, first of all, a community based on the male line. Parents inherit only their older son, who himself can decide which of the brothers can live with him under one roof.
However, in most cases, all sons remain in the parental home, which allows the family to become stronger and stronger. In the event that the mother of the home is the keeper of the hearth and the mistress in the house, she often lives in the house of the youngest son, and her unmarried daughters remain with her.
In spite of the fact that the owner of the community can dispose of the property belonging to the family, nevertheless all movable and immovable property belongs to all members of the family.Each family member, of course, can have his own personal belongings, which include weapons, clothing and jewelry. All the rest of the property can be used by all members of the family.
The traditional Armenian family always respects all the rules of hospitality, regardless of the position of the guest. Everyone who asks for a night’s lodging or the opportunity to stay for a while in the house of Armenians is always honored and only the best that the owner of the house can offer is displayed on the table.
On occasion, it is not considered shameful to ask for help from a neighbor who will always help in order to cover the table and prepare a bed for the guest. Particularly respectful of the guests who came from afar. Such a guest is put at the head of the table, treated to his best dishes, doing everything possible to ensure that the guest is satisfied.
Despite the fact that the modern world begins to dictate its rules of conduct and penetrates into every family, Armenian families remain one of the few that keep their ancient customs and traditions and strictly observe them.
Strong large families make it much easier to cope with life’s difficulties, rather than scattered families who have difficulty keeping in touch with their relatives.
The only changes that are noticeable to date in Armenian families are the existence of great rights for women who spend more time now studying and working not only around the house, but also they can get a prestigious job with men.
This does not distract them from everyday affairs, but on their part additional financial support for the family is obtained. Children receive education, which also allows them to grow and develop further.