Divorce

Divorce

– legal termination of marriage, recognized by the authorities. Our law allows divorce in the Orthodox only in 4 cases: 1) the inability of one of the spouses to live together if this disability arose before the marriage; 2) adultery of one of the spouses, must be proved by testimony; 3) unknown absence for at least 5 years; 4) the award of one of the spouses of a criminal. punishment, connected with deprivation of rights. Divorce is initiated at the request of one of the parties and is made by a consistory.

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Throughout life, the barometer of family happiness fluctuates extremely unevenly. Still would! There is nothing more unstable than human relationships. It would seem that only yesterday there was love, passion, and today – hatred, indifference and a mutual desire to disperse. This method of solving marital problems is chosen by half of the couples. Before replenishing their ranks, it is not superfluous to find out what stable myths distort our ideas about divorce as such.

Because people learn from bitter experiences, remarriage is usually more successful than the first.

Although many of those who remarried are happy, the probability of divorce remarriage is higher.

Living together before marriage is a good way to reduce the likelihood of a divorce in the future.

Many studies have shown that those who live together before marriage are much more likely to divorce. The reasons for this phenomenon are not fully understood. Partly it is explained by the fact that the very act of cohabitation leads to a certain type of relationship, which is characterized by instability. There is a relationship to marriage as something temporary, which can easily end.

Divorce affects many children negatively, but this effect has no lasting effect, and children recover relatively quickly.

Children from single-parent families are more likely to have problems communicating. Both short-term and large-scale, long-term practical studies have proved that these problems are long enough. With age, they can even increase.

Having a baby enhances satisfaction from marriage and helps to prevent divorce.

As many studies have shown, the appearance of the firstborn causes some tension between the spouses. Nevertheless, compared to childless couples, the risk of divorce is lower. And yet before the spouses, experienced conflicts, often stayed together for the sake of children.

After divorce, the standard of living of a woman falls by 73%, and men – 42%.

Such a sharp imbalance is one of the most widespread statistical figures. However, it was later discovered that the calculation was not entirely correct. When reviewing the data came to the conclusion that women’s well-being is reduced by 27%, and men – is increased by 10%. Despite the changed figures, the difference remains significant and has not significantly narrowed over the past decades.

If parents do not get along, it’s better for children that they split up than tolerate each other.

A recent large-scale study suggests the opposite. While the disagreements of parents have a drastic effect on the well-being of children, the divorce procedure itself has the same effect. The study found that only children from very conflict families after the divorce felt better. In families with a low level of conflict (and it turned out that in two of the three cases of divorce we are dealing with this type of family), the state of children after the divorce was significantly worse. Therefore, with the exception of cases with high conflict, it is much better for children if their parents stay together and seek a way out of the situation.

Survivors of a parent’s divorce are more cautious in choosing a marriage partner and are more inclined to avoid such a mistake. Therefore, their marriages, as a rule, are as strong as the marriages of children from complete families.

Marriages of children from single-parent families have a much higher divorce rate than the marriages of children from full.According to a recent study, the main reason is that children adopt the behavior of their parents. Children who survived a divorce undermined the sense of commitment to a life-long marriage.

For children who have survived the divorce of their parents, it is better if their father / mother regains a family, than they remain a single parent.

The facts suggest that remarriage is no better than an incomplete family, even though the father is present in the house, and the income level is usually higher. Remarriage of parents carries their own problems, such as conflicts between new parents and a very high risk of re-divorce.

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If at some point the spouses evaluate their marriage as unsuccessful, this is a clear sign that they will end in divorce.

Each marriage experiences ups and downs. A recent national study found that 86% of spouses, who in the late 1980s called their marriage unhappy, but did not rush to divorce, declared in five years that they were happier. Indeed, three-fifths of spouses who passed a black streak in their family life later rated it as “very” or “fairly happy.”

The process of divorce is usually initiated by men.

Two-thirds of all divorces occur at the request of women. A recent study found that one of the reasons lies in the legislative framework. For example, in most states of America, a woman has a high chance of receiving custody of children. As for women this is usually of paramount importance, in countries where both mother and father have the same rights to the child, the percentage of women initiators of divorce is much lower. This can also be explained by the fact that men “behave badly” more often than women. They, for example, are more likely to experience problems with alcohol, drug use and adultery.

Scandals and conflicts inevitably lead to a divorce.

In principle, it is true. For most people, a long existence in a “storm” mode is impossible. Especially, if only one of the spouses is scandalous, and the second plays the role of a buffer. But if both husband and wife possess an explosive temperament, the action can develop differently. And, to the surprise of the witnesses, the stormy scandals of such couples do not end with a meeting of lawyers, but with less stormy reconciliation. But from family disassembly of such pairs it is better to stay away. This is just the case when “husband and wife are one Satan.” What can you do, marriage, a prisoner in heaven, is not always a quiet cozy nest. It happens that the feelings, tempered in family battles, safely live to the golden wedding.

Late marriages are more durable.

It is assumed that with age a person is gaining experience, and therefore becomes more tolerant and unpretentious. It also seems to us that over the years of “search and wanderings”, clear views should be formed on joint living, tastes and desires for the opposite sex should prevail. And yet, marriages concluded up to the age of thirty are twice as long as marriages when the spouses are far behind … This is explained by the fact that a mature psyche, in fact, is more resistant to life cataclysms, while less receptive to everything new. Over time, a person loses plasticity and it becomes difficult for him to part with his habits and adjust to his partner. Yes, and a single life, I must say, is extremely addictive. To prevent us from talking about the joys of family life, marriage is hard work. And if the crazy youth rushes into the “marriage whirlpool” without looking back, then the maturity will think hard, but is it worth it to strain.

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The greatest number of divorces falls on the first three years of married life.

The first years of marriage are undoubtedly a difficult test for the newlyweds. They still have very little sense in family life, but are ready to fiercely defend their interests. From the quarrels that shake the young family, it seems just two steps before the divorce. However, statistics show that young spouses do not aspire to break their marriage obligations.With the loss of love we become less tolerant. The peak of divorces falls on 5-9 years, when the ardor of love passion has already passed, and you want to shake hormones. The most dangerous period in the life of the family is when the spouses are between 20 and 35 years old (the period of the greatest activity of a person). After 35 years, the number of divorces is declining. At this age, Mrs. “Habit” takes power in her hands.

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