Adoption – the acceptance into the family of the child as a blood, with all the rights and duties that follow from it. It is the priority form of the device. The number of orphans in Russia is very high – the official figure is 730 thousand people. This is more than just after the Great Patriotic War in the entire Soviet Union.
Many famous people abroad, such as Madonna, Brad Pitt with Angelina Jolie, Sharon Stone, adopt children. What motivates them? Why are our Russian orphanages overcrowded, and potential adoptive parents do not seek to disassemble orphans? Below we will consider the typical misconceptions that prevent people from taking a foster child into the family.
All children in the orphanage are ill.
In fact, every child undergoes a thorough medical examination, you are sure to be warned about the problems in his body and you can decide whether to take the child with a disease or choose another.
The adopted child will repeat the fate of his blood parents, he has a bad heredity.
For this reason, many prospective adoptive parents refuse to take children from their children’s home to their family, but this myth has no basis. To a greater extent, the further life of such a baby depends on education.
Adoption procedure is very long and expensive.
In fact, all administrative matters relating to adoption can be resolved in a short time. You will need the following references:
– a copy of the marriage certificate;
– a copy of the birth certificate (when the child is adopted by a person who is not married);
– with the adoption of a child by one of the spouses – the consent of the other spouse;
– medical report on the health status of the adopters;
– certificate from the place of work about the position held and income;
– characteristics from the place of work;
– an extract from the home book from the place of registration of the adoptive parents;
– a copy of the financial account from the place of registration of the adoptive parents;
– certificate of absence of previous convictions.
As you can see, the list of required documents is not that big, it’s quite possible to collect everything in a month or a year and a half. All references are free.
If the child finds out that he is a non-native – conflicts will begin.
No less conflict situations arise with native children. Often adopted children learn this information from neighbors, which leads to the child’s rejection of this fact. Parents should themselves tell the child the truth when they reach a certain age, to exclude speculation.
If I am not married, I will be refused adoption.
If you do not have a disability, are not recognized as incompetent by the court, have sufficient earnings and permanent residence, there will be no refusal.
Native child will be against.
Children’s jealousy is directed not only at the foster brother / sister, with relatives the same story. Over time, everything will fall into place and the children will be friends. But you do not have to bear and give birth – get a ready-made child, and even a certain sex and age!
Blood relatives of an adopted child can present their claims.
This is an extremely rare case, because, most often, children in orphanages are orphans or so-called. “social orphans”, their parents lead an antisocial lifestyle and children are not interested.
Fear that you can not love another’s child.
People who decide to adopt easily go through this stage and treat children as if they were relatives. Maternal instinct is manifested in some earlier, in others later, but a rare woman is completely deprived of it.
If the child does not suit me, I can return it to the orphanage.
At this extreme step, usually adoptive parents who place excessive demands on children and, when the latter do not meet expectations, return them. Also, the guardianship authority has the right to demand the cancellation of adoption if the adoptive parents do not fulfill their duties or on other grounds, based on the interests of the child (Ch. 19 of the Family Code).The procedure is carried out only in court.
In Russia, the turn of the children.
The number of abandoned children is so great that they will be enough for everyone. Of course, if you absolutely want to adopt a newborn girl with blue eyes – you will have to wait for some time, while there is one, but eye color is such a trifle compared to the smile of a loving child, is not it?
Adoption is a feat.
Many couples are treated for years, spend huge amounts of money on artificial insemination, but they do not dare to adopt, others take to the foster family, not because they consider it to be heroism, but simply because they want to have a child.