Each new day brings its own changes, many events take place, to some of which we can not always be ready. A new day is a new joy, resentment, stress, new acquaintance and communication with a lot of people. The pace of life is now much changed and has become much faster.
In order to always remain strong and be able to resist all possible difficulties that occur in life, it is necessary that there are always close and native people nearby.
It is necessary that there is one nearby who can put his shoulder and extend a helping hand, support and share joy. In this case, only the family can become that hand of help and support, without which no one can manage.
In Serbia, one can understand very well how important it is that there are always close and close people nearby. In this country, people had to go through a lot of things, and that is why since childhood, children have been brought up in love, warmth and understanding of how important it is that close people are always together, and there was mutual understanding in the family.
A Serbian family usually does not have more than two or three children and the first child in the family appears early. However, it is desirable that the family has already been sufficiently provided with material when a child appears in the family. In Serbia, the upbringing of children is begun only when the child is only at the mother’s abdomen.
It is believed that at this time the child can already perceive everything that he is told. Future mothers begin to talk with their babies, tell them tales and sing songs. In Serbia, very beautiful songs and the Serbs themselves sing a lot, so the child must know and hear the beauty of national songs even before his birth.
The birth of a child is a holiday in any family, and in Serbia it is a celebration, to which relatives, friends and relatives are invited, all accompanied by rituals. The first day of the birth of the baby, his first tooth and the first step, as well as the christening, are no less festively celebrated.
In some villages, rituals are still used for each of these events, but in cities, in most cases, it is simply customary to celebrate all these events at a table with friends and relatives and give gifts to the child.
Almost all Serbian women are breastfeeding their children until they are one year old. However, in the past, children were usually not weaned from the breast even up to five years, especially if the child was sick or had weak immunity.
For Serbs, the birth of a boy is preferable to a girl who is perceived as a stranger. Boys are continuers of the clan, fathers can be proud of the fact that their clan will not die and that the son will continue the male line. Even after birth, boys are put on their father’s shirt.
The Serbs approach the upbringing of children a little differently than other nations. Children do not feel parental strictness, they are more free and can do whatever they want. For children, there is almost no such thing as the daily routine, when you need to get up or go to bed at a certain time, eat or go for a walk. The cause of this education is the Serbian women themselves, who are very soft and calm.
Mothers in Serbia can not stay very long with the baby, because the leave to take care of the child lasts only a year. It is possible to extend it to three years, but the next two years are not paid by the state, unless the employer wants to provide payment for parental leave. However, most women go to work after a year.
Grandparents in this case become nannies until the child reaches the age when it can be given to the kindergarten. Already in the kindergarten the child begins to receive education, and much attention is paid primarily to music, painting and foreign languages.
English is taught by all children, starting with kindergarten, and even parents themselves can begin to give some knowledge of foreign languages to their children. Further the baton is already taken by the school, where they already get a deeper knowledge of the foreign language, as well as higher education institutions.
Quite often, Serbs leave their country and go abroad for earnings, in these cases knowledge of foreign languages is very helpful. Many parents try to send their children even for a short time abroad, so that they can quickly learn and get more practice of a foreign language.
Parting with parents, although not for long, is a test for the children and for the parents themselves, but it helps children to quickly settle in someone else’s environment, which is very useful in the future when they often have to go to other countries for work.
If a Serbian family goes abroad to work and stays there permanently, the relatives try to come as often as possible to visit, in order not to lose family and family ties. The whole family is necessarily going to family holidays, such as weddings, christenings, the birth of children.
The Christening is one of the most solemn holidays in Serbia. The godparents are chosen from neighbors or friends, but not relatives. It can even be the child’s godparents.
There is such a sign that the child will be engaged in his life the same as his godfather and so the godfather choose very carefully. It should be a respected person who has a prestigious job and a good profession. The godparents become family members and very often they can come to visit their godson and give him gifts.
Children in Serbia live with their parents until they can start, live on their own, and will not be financially independent. The daughter leaves the parental home when she is getting married.
However, even after children have their own families and children, they continue to listen to what adults say to them. Parents are always ready to help and support their children, even if they are already fully on their feet and can live on their own.