When marrying, any man wants to maintain a relationship. But life turns out to be unpredictable – many families disintegrate, not having passed the test of time and life. And who is to blame for this? Is there only one person? It is fair to admit, the husband is a great responsibility. The wife deserves special treatment.
Herald Rogers gives advice on how to save your family and become a good husband. He himself divorced, which allowed him to rethink his life and draw certain conclusions. Now he understands how and for what he should have fought.
Rogers is not a certified expert, but 16 years of marriage give him the opportunity to realize all his mistakes. Now he advises not to repeat his negative experience.
Do not stop in courtship.
Men who have married, believe that their task of conquering a woman is already over. One should never assume that a woman is a prize won. When we ask her to marry us, it is implied that we will be the owner of her heart and the protector of feelings. This is the most sacred treasure that we got in life. Do not forget – she chose us. Always remember this and do not be lazy in showing your feelings to your beloved.
Protect your heart.
It is not enough to be the protector of the heart of a woman, one must keep one’s own, showing vigilance in this matter. It is worth loving yourself, being open to the world around you, but at the same time keeping a special place in your soul. There should be no access to anyone but his wife. Let the heart for her always be open, and only for her.
Fall in love again and again.
We will constantly change, tomorrow we will become different, not the same as yesterday. Especially the spouses who have lived together for years are changing. It is worth to be ready, that changes will come. Proceeding from this, it is necessary to choose each other anew every day. And the chosen one should not just be close, her heart must be conquered every time, as in the first. If this is not done, she will give her heart to another, and it will be difficult to return her beloved. The advice is simple – to fight for your love every day in marriage, as well as during courtship.
To see in it only the best.
You should focus on what you love about it and constantly expand these boundaries. If you think only of its shortcomings, then this will turn into a mere annoyance. The focus is solely on love, if it does not help, then redeems in this bright feeling. Seeing for what you love this man for, you can become the happiest person on the planet, who has such a wonderful wife.
To change it is not our task.
The task of the husband is to love her as she is, without expecting or demanding changes from her. If it did happen, then you need to love a woman the way she is. And this is also part of a responsible relationship.
Take full responsibility for your feelings.
It should be understood that this is not the task of the wife – to make you happy or sad. For this we are responsible ourselves, the joy born within us will result in harmonious relations and love.
Never accuse your wife of anger or frustration.
We are angry, and it seems to us that the wife is to blame for all the problems? But these are our feelings and our responsibility for them. When there is a feeling that anger begins to manifest itself, we must quickly look at ourselves from outside and find ways to suppress anger. After all, once this woman attracted us to her, which means that she is the person who is best suited for curing children’s trauma. And when we learn how to heal them together, they will stop worrying us, there will be only bewilderment from the former behavior.
Let the woman just be herself.
When she is upset or sad, it’s not our job to fix it. A man should support the chosen one and let her know that nothing terrible has happened and that he is next to her. It is important that a woman understands that she is heard, that she is important to her husband. He must remain one who can always be relied on.The woman’s soul is full of emotions, everything changes quickly. Some feelings go away, they are replaced by others. But a strong and impartial partner, she will trust and open her whole soul. Do not turn away and run away when she’s upset. Be strong and make it clear that you will not go anywhere. And it is worthwhile to listen to what is really behind the words and emotions.
Do not be too serious all the time. Let’s laugh yourselves and teach your beloved that. Thanks to fun, life becomes easier. Just do not overdo it in this field.
Fill her soul every day.
You need to know the language of her love and those small features that she considers important. A man should make a list of those things that help his wife feel loved. And then they should be remembered and given priority to them every day. Let her feel like a princess, every day of which, like a little holiday.
It is necessary to give his wife not only his time, but also his attention. Let at moments of communication the head be freed from its own affairs and routine. Give yourself entirely to her, showing that her problems are the most important. A wife is the most important client in your life, so it’s worth treating to her.
Be ready to accept her sexuality.
A rude man who wants only consumption of a female body is an option that should be used only occasionally. A woman wants us to penetrate the very depths of her tender soul. Allow yourself to dissolve into her softness so that she can fully trust you.
Do not be an idiot.
You can not be a fool, but you can not be afraid of getting into ridiculous situations either. No one is immune from this. Any of us makes mistakes, both men and women. We just have to try to avoid serious mistakes, and if they did happen, then we must learn from this experience. We can not be perfect, but try not to be stupid quite real.
Give her a personal space.
Women share so much and qualitatively that they sometimes need to remember about its development and personal space. Let her have freedom and time to find herself and develop. It is necessary to release a woman for a short time, and she will certainly return with fresh emotions and impressions. It is especially important to give her freedom when the family has children. She needs to stay a little in her personal world, find herself there. After all, in a closed circle of services for children and her husband, a woman is gradually lost.
You can not always be hard as flint. One must sometimes share their fears and feelings, quickly recognize their mistakes.
A man who wants to gain trust should be ready to share himself. It is especially important to talk about what you do not want. And it takes real courage to love in full, while opening your soul and admitting your native person there. Many men fear that she will not like what she discovers. But thanks to this frankness, a woman can fall in love with the chosen one along with all his shortcomings. Marriage is not a place for masks. If it seems that behind them you can hide from problems and be an ideal husband, then you will never be able to fully experience the depth of love.
If there is water in the pond without moving, it will be covered with mud. And the muscles of a person atrophy, if over them do not work. All this has to do with relations that the same destiny awaits if they are not developed. We must find common goals, dreams and ideals and continue to work in this direction.
Do not think about money.
It’s worth treating money as a game. You just need to find ways to work as a team to win such a prize. Disparate one by one you can not win anything. It is necessary to find ways to use the two sides of the force.
You can not give stories to take relations hostage. It is worth learning to forgive your loved one right away and focus on the future.This is much more constructive than dragging the past. When we hold on to past mistakes, it does not even matter, our or her, our marriage is tied tightly to the past and does not allow us to develop. Forgiveness is freedom. It is necessary to get rid of such an anchor in favor of your love.
Always choose your love.
This advice is the most important, in fact, it is the only one that needs to be followed. Let this principle be the main thing in decision-making, then in life there will be nothing that could put marriage at risk. Love can endure and endure troubles. Marriage is not a band of continuous happiness, but laborious work. Thanks to the willingness to grow together, constantly investing in the creation of something and can survive for ages. Thanks to such work, happiness will appear.