It becomes a shock for a girl to leave her beloved boyfriend. This situation is stressful. With time comes an understanding of why this happened. Many decide to fight for their relationship. After all, having corrected everything that destroyed relations, you can try to resume them. The decision is made – the guy must be returned! It remains only to understand what to do and where to start. On this way there are a lot of pitfalls. Avoid mistakes will help our advice.
Do not call.
The main thing with which to start – do not start actively naming and recalling all the advantages of the relationship that ended. Moreover, some girls do it also aggressively: “Without me you will be lost!”, “Who will cook you, will you wash?”. Sometimes during such conversations, consciously or not, an attempt is made to manipulate. Some expressive natures hint at even the possibility of suicide. In this situation, the guy will only think about how to fix the situation, calming the girl or finally get rid of it. On the renewal of the relationship to think already and do not want.
It is worth sharing the feeling that you yourself are tired of this relationship. However, one can not say that from them a feeling of dislike or painful memories was caused, that the gap left a bad sludge. The guy should, on the one hand, see a like-minded person, thinking the same way as he does, and on the other, he should have a desire to correct what he did not succeed. And in this endeavor, he will already have a reliable partner.
Time to disappear.
A mistake will constantly remind the guy that you are all right, that you already do not think about him, that you are about to leave. The abyss will be right for a time. The significant status “was on the network 20 days ago” will make him think about where you disappeared. The guy will start to worry, because he still had warm memories of your relationship.
Attention to memories.
It is worth paying attention to your memories. Surely there were moments that brought joy to both of you, and some, on the contrary, caused conflicts. It is worth to honestly assess their dignity, how you, as a girl, are pleasant in communication, cute externally. To analyze your strengths and weaknesses, you can connect your friends. After drawing up the list, you can create a plan for eliminating errors. Maybe it’s time to significantly change the wardrobe, go to a cosmetologist, read, finally, his favorite book?
Try to change dramatically.
A radical change in yourself can be the step that will help to correct the situation. The girl thought that she was extremely witty, but in fact she seemed to the guy a sarcastic person, trying to comment everything around. Why not change the image and not turn into a modest Turgenev girl? Those who prefer natural style, it is worth thinking that her boyfriend could see in her a simpleton who does not want to be painted. Tedious hostess should think about becoming a “mommy” in a sexy girlfriend, self-confident workaholic should be added to his image of carelessness and airiness.
Avoid mentions of the past.
Conversations about the past can become an instrument for influencing a guy. He himself will avoid this, although the girl so much wants to talk on this topic. It is worthwhile to behave in a friendly and smooth manner, do not start a heart-rending conversation, do not go into the old details and certainly do not ask for anything, do not offer or advise. In a word – to pretend that there was no relationship at all. On the question of how things are, you should answer simply and do not go into details of what is happening to you after the break.
Attitude towards a new girlfriend.
The appearance of a new girlfriend in the guy – an excuse to comment on this or somehow react. But it is necessary to get rid of such stormy emotions in this regard. Better make friends with his new girlfriend. So the competitor will be next to him, he will begin to share his thoughts.Sooner or later, she will call a friend to help in the confrontation with the guy. This, of course, will cause him unpleasant feelings towards you, which is still tolerable. But mainly he will be angry with his present passion. In the struggle for closeness to her friend, it is necessary to act gradually. The beginning can be a compliment or a small request, which will require a little effort, but will be the occasion for generous gratitude. You can ask where she took such a great dress, who did her hair. It is not superfluous to add each other as friends in social networks, where you can easily share news, pictures and messages that will help to get closer. It is worth sharing with your girlfriends funny and shameful stories for a guy. He will be embarrassed for this part of his life. In conversations with a guy it is always to take the side of a new girl, this will help her to become so strong that the guy will soon start to avoid it. In this case, it is superfluous to note to him that you do not have such problems, I remember.
Hide your interests.
The former guy will be suspicious of the one with whom he recently broke up. Trust can be earned through bright stories, accessible to a close circle. That girl suddenly begins to twist the affair with his girlfriend, then she is going to leave forever from the country, then she has a serious relationship with the married boss. The more details about the girl’s new life, in which there is no room for a guy, will leak into the environment, the sooner the confidence will return. The guy should believe that he is not interested in his former passion now. Then it will be possible to start a real “hunt”.
Show progress in life.
If you listen to the previous advice, sooner or later the dips in the image will be eliminated. But it was they who once caused the break, forcing the guy to flee from his girlfriend. There is no limit to perfection, we must continue to take new heights in life and work on ourselves. It is necessary to cease to receive from life a negative and to scold all surrounding in a life and the Internet. Any woman dreams of making herself a luxurious haircut – it is time to realize this dream, descending into the expensive salon. It is necessary to revise your wardrobe, simply throwing out all those things that you do not go. It’s worth starting to live your life, not strangers. Relatives can spend hours discussing the problems of the family, public political discussions will also eat up. They will be required for internal changes. Do not resort to introspection, such sessions will end with tears and addiction to sweets. It is necessary to find some kind of intellectual activity, which will really be to your liking. Spheres, interesting guy, is also worth monitoring. However, a deliberate demonstration of knowledge in matters that are considered to be purely masculine may cause suspicion. The guy does not believe in such knowledge, believing that the girl purposely flaunts them. You just have to be ready to support the conversation on an interesting topic. It’s also worth making a list of what you can be loved for. And let the acquaintance who is neutral towards you adjust it, looking impartially and from the side.
Call his initiative.
Moments of weakness are for everyone, as well as the former lover and friend. However, do not immediately try to use them, appearing due to soon after his quarrel with a new girlfriend. A man can complain, even cry, he will want to shelter and even reward. However, the next morning, he is likely to be ashamed of his behavior and break all ties, preferring not to remember his unworthy remorse. At such a time, it is better to show a soft detachment. This and the friend will cause gratitude, and will be rewarded with time. Let the initiative come from the guy himself. He should understand that the girl has changed, she has become better not only herself but her current friend. And this concerns important issues for him, from scientific knowledge, to sexual techniques. It is necessary to be at a distance, but close, to rotate in the same circles, causing admiration of the other guys. Jealousy has not been canceled yet.In general, for any girl, it is important to have something more important in life than study, a blog about beauty and the experience of the end of relationships.