Hard times sooner or later happen to any of us. You just need to be able to survive and remember that sooner or later the black band will change into light. True, few can manage it. Is there any secret of going through difficulties?
Professor Carol Morgan reveals the secrets, noting that the reason lies in many respects in our attitude to the surrounding reality. We will talk about these things, which will certainly help us in difficult moments.
A well-known quotation from the Buddha says that all our sufferings are caused by the resistance of reality, to that which surrounds us. Probably, it’s worth stopping here and letting yourself think about this thesis for a minute. The philosopher explicitly says that all our sufferings are caused by our refusal to perceive reality. If we can change something around ourselves, then we must do this. But if changes are simply impossible, then life gives us two choices. You can accept the situation and not accumulate unnecessary negativity or begin to suffer, causing pity to yourself and complaining about the imperfection of the world.
How the problem appears.
It turns out that the problem arises at the moment when we visualize it and designate it ourselves. That is, our worst enemy, which generates trouble – we ourselves. Our happiness depends on our view of life. If you select a part of your life and call it all a problem, then this tangle will start to be filled with negative. Perhaps, it is worth thinking about what valuable lessons can be learned from the current situation? Then it will cease to be a problem.
Start changing the world with yourself.
The way we see the outside world is fully consistent with our inner world. Near to us for certain there are people, whose life is plunged in a train of stresses and chaos. But is this not a reflection of the disorder that reigned in their soul? It’s easy to believe that circumstances affect us. In fact, everything is exactly the opposite – we can change ourselves, and this will improve the situation around us.
Failure does not exist.
The words “failure” and “failure” simply should not be in our vocabulary. Any great man on the road to success has failed, returning again and again to his work. Thomas Edison said that on the way to the invention of a light bulb he did not fail. Just along the way, he discovered 99 ways how his invention does not work. Let our failures teach us, because they give information which way to avoid in the future.
Our best is already on our way.
When we do not get what we want, we must believe that it is still on our way. If you look back at your life, it turns out that our victories happened after some defeats or failures. Refusal of good work can also have good consequences – we will become closer to the family. You just have to believe that everything happens in a way that leads us to something better.
You must appreciate the present.
We all the time live in the future, seeking for it, forgetting about the present. But those moments that we have now, will never come again. In each moment of our time there is something valuable that it is worth catching and not letting it pass us by. Time flows, life inevitably turns into memories. Perhaps, someday we will miss those moments that we do not really appreciate now.
Do not cling to desire.
Most of us live with “connected brains”. This means that we attach too much attention to our dreams. And if it does not happen, then we get negative emotions. Why not start practicing a “detached mind” after this? Each of us has our own wishes, but we need to learn how to be happy, even if we do not get it. In any case, our emotions must be kept positive or at least neutral.
Realize your fears and be grateful to them.
It turns out that fear can teach a lot. Overcoming it will allow us to become closer to victory. Many young people are afraid to speak publicly.But life develops in such a way that in life they later have to communicate with large groups of people on the basis of their work. And some even teach others the art of public speaking. And you can overcome your fears with the help of regular practices. We only need to understand that fear is nothing but the fruit of our imagination.
Allow yourself to be joyful.
Ironically, some people just do not allow themselves to have fun and enjoy life. These people do not know anything about real happiness. Someone is completely immersed in their problems, his inner world is a complete chaos. These people do not know what they would have become without such a load. That’s why we should give ourselves the opportunity to be happy. And it does not matter that this will be a small moment, it is important to periodically focus on the positive aspects of your life.
Do not compare yourself with others.
Often people, comparing themselves with others, note their inferiority. But why not compare yourself with those who live even worse? Even the unemployed can be pleased at least that he receives unemployment benefits. But most of the world’s inhabitants live in extreme poverty. Girls who are far from the standards of photomodels, it is worthwhile to understand that there are few real beauties. And, most likely, you are more attractive than many. Why not think about it?
You can not consider yourself a victim.
If we are someone’s victim, then only our thoughts, actions and phrases. No one is planning or doing anything specifically against us. Our life experience is created by ourselves. You just need to take responsibility for your life in your own hands and understand that it’s possible to survive the difficulties. And we must begin by changing our thoughts and actions. It is necessary to abandon the thinking of the eternal victim of circumstances and begin to become a winner.
Everything around will certainly change.
It is said that on the ring of the ancient king Solomon was inscribed “And it will pass away.” It happens that there is a bad situation, from which there is simply no way out. And it seems that there was a vicious circle. But the changes will certainly come. They say that there is nothing eternal, except death. Therefore, we must abandon the thoughts that nothing can be changed and the circle will be closed. Sooner or later everything will change. And it depends on our actions how quickly this happens. By itself, the situation is magically unlikely to correct.
Everything is possible.
It is worth believing that miracles can happen every day – this is an absolute truth. That’s only in this article it will not be possible to tell about all unusual cases occurring with people. Some could be healed of an incurable disease, while others suddenly met their fate. And such cases occur constantly. You just have to believe that it happens. And with the awareness of miracles in our lives, it will be possible to win the entire battle.