Filipinos have preserved their ancient customs as best as possible, despite the fact that civilization and progress have also come here. In the Philippines, family ties are taken very seriously. In the Philippines, family ties are important in the family, but spiritual cohesion is also important here for the whole family and for the closest relatives.
Only in the environment of his relatives the Filipino feels completely safe. The family protects the Filipino from all hardships and troubles, so helping relatives is a sacred duty, which no one simply does not occur to violate. However, in the Philippines, this assistance simply does not know the limit.
You can say that each member of the family enjoys the following position: the elder brother is obliged to pay for the study of the younger, to feed and to dress them until they can lead an independent way of life, in turn, the younger brother, having matured, is obliged to maintain his nephews and so on from generation to generation.
It is in view of all these trends that a natural desire to increase the number of people who are ready to come to the defense of each other in the event of unforeseen situations comes about, and here not only blood but also spiritual kinship comes to the aid, which is established as a result of religious rites.
Establishment of a religious relationship is handled by the well-known in the Philippines “compadre system.” The word “compadre” is translated from Spanish as “kum”. Compadra is the person who is the godfather of the child at the christening.
The godmother is called a mosquito. The desire to increase the number of defenders led to the fact that the godparents were chosen several times: on the occasion of illness, marriage, building a house.
Relations between godparents and godchildren are complex and at first sight incomprehensible. The godparents in the Philippines are usually chosen from those people who use influence in society so that they can provide effective assistance in the life of the godson.
Godparents are chosen from different social strata of the population, occupying different positions in society, because you never know in advance what can be useful in life.
Becoming a godfather or mother, a person becomes a member of the family of his ward, he is obliged to help him by all means that he has available, and he in turn has the right to count on support in all matters, not only from his ward, but and all his relatives.
Thus, many more relatives are added to the already existing family, since the parents of the gods also have large families, and they are also equated with one common family that is already large.
Family connections are of great importance in the Philippines, and that is confirmed by a large number of facts. When they represent a stranger, they also point out to their relatives occupying important positions that the person to whom this person represents should have an idea of what position the whole family and each of its members occupy in society.
Filipinos have very developed mutual assistance, for example, there is such a custom where, at the request of any villager, all fellow villagers come to his aid and help him cope with work that one person can not perform. This can be a move at home, because the houses are pretty light, and the Filipinos have such a trait as a love for a change of residence.
The one who asked his fellow villagers for help, always exhibits a treat, and everyone is happy to be accepted for the cause. This is a very convenient moment for young people, because at such events a young man can look after a girl and give her signs of attention. At such events, new relations are often born, which will lead, perhaps, to the creation of a new family.
In the Philippines, if a young man cares for a girl, then the courtship process is very slow and passes through a strictly prescribed form, which in no way can be deflected. This is a kind of rite, which young people must necessarily pass before they are combined with a legitimate marriage.
For example, a young man can not enter the house of his chosen one, if he does not receive an invitation three times. If he receives an invitation, then after he enters the house, he can not sit down until he is asked three times for it.
After the young parents agree on the engagement, the girl prepares her dowry, after which the marriage ceremony itself is already taking place, which also follows the strict rules and regulations of the Filipinos. Very often after the wedding, the groom works in the house of his future wife.
This is done so that the bride’s parents look at him, evaluate him as an employee, can he really be a good husband for their daughter. Some unclean people can abuse this custom, especially if the groom treats a rather poor family, and the bride on the contrary gets out of a well-to-do family.
Very often, after the young man has fulfilled the deadline, he is told that he is just not a suitable pair for their daughter and the young man has nothing left to do but leave the house. In the house of the bride the young man should behave very modestly, he has no right to speak to the bride’s relatives first, until he is asked about something, he can not refuse any work.
After a young man in the Philippines works out his time, and if the parents of the bride are satisfied, we can assume that the marriage has finally taken place, and the young either live in the husband’s house, or if the parents of both sides can provide young people with separate housing, settle in their house and lead an independent way of life.
To date, young spouses are trying to live separately from their parents, so that they can be influenced as little as possible by all the numerous relatives, godparents, sisters and brothers.