The arrangement of the Swedish family, or rather, exactly how couples live in modern Sweden, is quite curious. In the past, family traditions in the country were patriarchal. The woman was subordinated first to her parents, then to her husband. Marriages were based on the collusion of the parents, sometimes even in the early childhood of the bride and groom.
It is interesting that premarital sex in Sweden was (and now is) a common occurrence – the groom could freely spend the night with the bride. The period of “courtship” could last up to two years, and hasty marriage was condemned by the public.
Often the impetus for the wedding became pregnancy or even the bridegroom, which served as a clear confirmation of “fertility” and were positive qualities.
The custom of “kidnapping the bride” was widespread – sometimes the young man did not care for the chosen one, but preferred to wait until the beloved begins to prepare for the wedding with the rival. In the midst of the wedding, a young Swede kidnapped her.
The bride stolen from one wedding was immediately brought to another, where a celebration and a feast was arranged. A young family in Sweden settled in their own house and lived their own household. This custom has survived to this day.
The relationship to marriage between Swedes is quite free. Modern Swedes almost never make an official marriage, and live in a civilian, called “samba” – “living together.” At the same time, duties and rights are absolutely the same as in official unions.
Standard “Sweden” – a couple of parents and a couple of children. Some Swedes explain their unwillingness to marry because of the high cost and duration of divorce, especially if there are joint children in the family.
In the absence of officialdom, divorce is the simplest measure – it is enough to disperse in different apartments. Former husbands and wives usually keep good, even friendly relations.
In Sweden, a woman has many rights and is well protected socially. Many Swedes have several marriages, and children choose where they live after the divorce – from the pope or from the mother, often preferring to spend two weeks alternately with each of the parents.
Swedish popes are very responsible for children – the issue of compulsory recovery of alimony is never put, children regularly under 18 receive assistance from their father, or, if his whereabouts are unknown, from the state. Lonely mothers also have substantial benefits for housing and child benefits.
Housing Swedes, townspeople buy very rarely. Basically, they live in public flats, paying rent for them. In terms of material, it is important for Swedes to meet certain standards, to be “no worse than others.”
Usually both spouses work in the family, but it is customary to have different bank accounts, separate for the husband and for the wife. Together, the spouses pay for utilities – telephone, water, electricity and share food expenses. And for purchases of others, for example, clothes, everyone spends money from their own account.
The financial independence of Swedes often manifests itself surprisingly for a Russian person: for example, in the order of things, when visiting a restaurant the spouses are divided in half and paid separately.
In the joint economy Sweden adheres to the principle of equality – the couple equally share household chores. The husband does not consider it shameful to cook or clean, the wife can perform minor repair and construction work – all by mutual consent.
A great relief of domestic problems is the technique, which in each family is plentiful. Required the presence of washing machines, dishwashers, powerful vacuum cleaners, kitchen appliances and other things. By the way, many Swedish women practically do not dress clothes, resorting to the help of an iron only in extreme cases.
Children in Swedish families from childhood are raised as free personalities. Corporal punishment is strictly prohibited, and it is considered a crime, therefore every young Swede can call the police and complain to his mother or father who spanked him. At the same time, parents face severe punishment.
The Swedish kid has his own room, which is completely his personal territory. Even if everything is lying around in a picturesque mess, parents prefer not to interfere, believing that the child has the right to live as he wants and at the right time he will put things in order.
When children become older and invite friends to their company, parents do not look at them in the room without an invitation. It is customary to take the child to parties and take him from there at about 12 o’clock in the morning.
Parents perform these duties calmly, since it is considered that children need their own life as much as adults. Mom or Dad brings chad to additional classes, as many Swedish children are actively involved in sports.
A child can obtain his own automobile rights at the age of 18, from about this age, children leave the family and lead an independent life in which their parents do not interfere. Young people rent their own homes, study or work.
Material aid to adult children from Swedes is not accepted, in extreme cases, children can apply for state aid, and receive it in the form of material payments from social services or loans from the state for 10-20 years.
So, real Sweden is actually a strong cell of modern society, arranged quite reasonably. The main thing is an infinitely calm and respectful attitude to each other, which many people can learn from the Swedes.