The family is created by young spouses, and only depends on them, how their relations will develop in the future. All that depends on the parents is to give their parental blessing, to organize a wedding, which will be the first step for the young in their new independent family life.
The best development of a new family can only be if the parents exert the least pressure on the young and do not fill them with their advice. However, this is possible only if young spouses start their life together in a separate dwelling.
Joint housing is in many cases again the help of parents. The independent beginning of a joint life, a separate housing – all this was possible many years ago, when as a gift for a wedding or as a dowry, parents could provide young people with their own home and initial farming.
Dowry was part of ritual activities in many countries, where for a long time all traditions were observed. However, at present, the opportunities to prepare a rich dowry are not always enough, so much has to be changed, and very often young couples stay with their parents for a long time.
All this applies to virtually every country, except perhaps the countries of Asia, where it is simply impossible to break customs. Moldova was not an exception, it is the country in which all customs and rites were observed very strictly. For their children, parents were preparing a rather rich dowry, both from the bride and from the groom.
Moldovan wedding is simply an incredibly bright holiday full of all sorts of national traditions and at present some of them have to be excluded, because views on the modern world are changing.
However, despite this, Moldovan weddings are held on a grand scale and even those traditions that have remained can show how important this holiday is for every Moldovan.
For Moldovans, marriage is not just the creation of a new family, it is a perfect change of social status, when a person from an idle turns into a married man. The same applies, for example, to the age of Moldovans, when the transition from youth to youth takes place, and so on.
If Russian weddings are basically a registration of marriage and a wedding feast, for Moldavians the most important thing is to show everyone the whole process of offering a hand and a heart that must be accompanied by traditional rituals.
Show to all people the love of young people, the most important moment in their life when they take consent with each other for the marriage. With such customs, no wedding, of course, can not do without matchmaking.
Matchmaking among Moldovans is quite original and there is no such custom in any other country. Matchmakers do not engage in long conversations, but come to say the most laudatory speeches addressed to the bride’s parents; these can be songs, fables, in which they sing of the love of two young people and the like. Here you will not find boring speeches, which are peculiar to other national traditions.
In addition to matchmaking in Moldova, the engagement process is also important, when various contests and games are arranged for young people. For example, one of the interesting customs for young people when they have to find wedding rings in plates or cups of grain, after which they must exchange rings. After this process, the young can already be called the bride and groom.
Those customs that are associated with the transfer of the dowry of the bride are not currently relevant in Moldova, but they are not completely excluded from the wedding plan, they have only been slightly changed and now the transfer of the dowry takes place as a regular game for young and guests.
Of course, like all weddings, the Moldovan wedding takes place with songs, dances, congratulations and so on. As for the dances, for the Moldavian wedding, the participation of national dance ensembles, which perform in national costumes, is characteristic.If there is no possibility to invite professional dancers, then the guests themselves start dancing, dressed up in their best suits.
Moldovan dances are so clockwork that they can tempt absolutely everyone present to dance too. Songs – this is also a special case, because at the Moldavian wedding all the songs are dedicated only to the young, love and family. Each of the guests should express their wishes to the young, wish them happiness and wealth.
Among all this variety of merry dances and songs, one rite is singled out, which Moldavians should preserve for many years. This is a dance that makes sense for the young, for the bride and parents. Dance, in which the girls depict the moment of dressing the bride. At this time, the young girl says goodbye to all her past, friends, parents and home, which she leaves, in order to live with her husband.
All the actions of the girls who surrounded the bride are accompanied by a song in which it is just being sung about how a young girl will long for all her relatives and friends. A touching moment that shows how hard it is to leave home, to part with adolescence, in order to enter a new, adult life.
After all entertaining activities, dances, songs, all customs that must be observed, all guests are expected a festive wedding feast. The wedding table at the wedding of Moldovans is always very rich.
The transition to the festive meal says that the young people have now become a real married couple and have moved to a new social status – the couple. Congratulations and praises continue to be heard at the table in honor of the young people, who will always be together.
A noisy and cheerful meal can last for a long time, but for young people there can be reserved and several more rites that are not always used at the moment, but they were very popular several years ago. These are rituals associated with the first wedding night, with the designation for the young wife of the status of the hostess of the house and many others.