Families of Laos



Laos refers to countries in which the main religion is Buddhism. Buddhism permeates every bit of the soul and body of a person, it manifests itself not only in the fact that Lao people spend a lot of time in monasteries, but also in the daily life of people.

In Laos, every man is a Buddhist, he is necessarily sent to a monastery for a period of his life and obedient.


Laos can also be attributed to one of the few countries where there are no conflicts, the people of the country are peaceful and friendly people, and they are calm and patient with the traditions and customs of foreigners.

Laotians have a wonderful sense of humor, which always helps them out in life situations. If you approach communication with the locals with a smile, they will always answer the same. If the Laotian’s face does not have a smile, then this indicates that he is angry.

The family for Lao people is an important part of society. The family has a special attitude towards Lao people, however, families are usually not large, it is rare to see a large number of children from Lao people.

The average Lao family consists mainly of seven members: the father, mother, children who may already be married, elderly parents, and also one or two other relatives may reside in the family.

The head of the family is usually a man, but this does not mean that all members of the family must obey him without question, there are no harassment of women in Laos. That is why in the Laotian family, especially in cities, you can see the modern European system of relationships.

Parents in Laos are trying to avoid direct parenting. According to local traditions, other members of the family lead the education and upbringing of children. The same applies to the choice of a couple to marry their children.

There is a legend in which it is said that true love only appears in the couple who were in love “in a past life.” In Laos it is believed that all marriages are in heaven, and everything that happens in life is prepared from above and the destinies of all people are predetermined.

Wedding and marriage ceremonies in Laos are complex procedures. Usually, the groom’s parents give gifts or money to the parents of the bride before the wedding. However, this is not considered a ransom.

After marriage, young people in Laos start a family life in the home of the bride’s parents and live like this for 2 to 3 years from the date of the wedding. During this time, young people need to find an opportunity to acquire their own housing.

A few years later, sometimes even after the birth of the children, a young family gets the opportunity to start a house of their own, and most often they try to find a place closer to the house of the husband’s parents. Children in Laos are very fond of and they are never punished. It is believed that a child can not carry love and kindness into the world, if in childhood he was punished.

Despite the fact that parents usually give their children upbringing to their other relatives, this does not mean that the child does not receive enough care and love. On the contrary, all those who undertake the education of children instill in them the best qualities, respect for the family, for parents and for society.

Concerning the names of Lao people, there are also their own characteristics. Lao people in past times used only names that were not given by parents, but by astrologers who selected them with special meaning.

Surnames began to be used quite recently, because the government of Laos issued a law stating that everyone should have their first and last name. However, locals still refer to each other only by name, and they also retained the tradition of changing names according to their occupation or occupation.

After the wedding in Laos, the bride can take not only the surname, but her husband’s name, but also can leave her initials, but the children must receive the surname of their father. Inheritance in Laos is conducted along the male line, as in other countries.

Family ties remain with the young family with both parents’ homes, and children are constantly in the home of both parents, especially if it concerns any holidays or joint activities.

As a result of the fact that young people choose couples on their own and most marriages are concluded by mutual consent of both parties in Laos, divorce is very rare, and most marriages are very strong.

As in other countries, where the main religion is Buddhism, in Laos, touching the head of local residents means insulting. You can not even touch the head of a child.

Women do not have the right to appeal to monks, but Buddhist monks, it is forbidden to touch a woman. As a result, a woman who wants to make an offering to a monk, first must pass it to the man, and he will already give the monk’s offering.


You can simply put an offering on the edge of a cloak or shawl that the monk on the other hand holds. However, in many churches these orders are violated quite widely, therefore, for each specific area, it is necessary to clarify traditions and rules.

In clothing, Lao people adhere to some rules, although there is no special severity in both women and men. If we consider urban residents, then everything is much simpler, they are much closer to European standards.

Such clothes as shorts, both for men and women are allowed only on the beach, and at the hotel. When entering any home, Laotians need to take off their shoes.

Some of the temples can only be accessed by shoes that have a heel closed. Lao houses in some areas are raised above the ground on piles, so the shoes are left on the stairs. When visiting public places and temples, the length of the trousers or skirt should be such that it covers the ankles.

The public display of feelings, both for men and women in Laos is not permissible. Even at the sight of tourists or foreigners who are too outspoken in expressing their emotions, Lao people can react negatively, because the expression of feelings between a man and a woman is only permissible for them alone.



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