Each of us wants to create a family that is strong and friendly, and the children respect and respect their parents. However, how to create such an almost ideal family, if today all major problems are limited by the financial condition of both spouses.
The secret of a happy and healthy marriage is the patience and joint enthusiasm of both spouses. The Finnish woman always had a lot of patience, and families in Finland were always very large. A man in Finland is the head of the family and the main breadwinner, as he needs to support his family and children.
However, at present, as in many other countries in Finland, there is a decrease in the number of children in the family, and families are no longer so large. Family traditions are not preserved in all families, and in fact they serve as strengthening within family relations and the whole family as a whole.
In Finland, there are often civil marriages in which spouses can live for many years and only then can they marry legally. The average age for men who wish to get married sometime around 30 years, women start thinking about family life a couple of years earlier.
At this age there already comes an understanding that it is necessary to create that cell of society in which it will be warm and cozy, where they can return after a hard day’s work and rest.
In Finland, families are few, almost every family has one child, less than 30 percent of families have two and three children. Finland was the first country to be recognized, there were equal rights for women and men, and it was here that the first woman president appeared.
Sometimes men even feel some stiffness and insecurity, because equality in Finland is becoming more important. However, if in public life this is not so noticeable, then in everyday life it manifests itself very strongly when the spouses remain alone without witnesses.
A woman who has more weight in society and has a higher salary than her husband has every right to show his worth in the family. Witnesses of such expressions of emotion are only children and what they see, very much affects their character and upbringing.
A woman in Finland today is not the house and family, the upbringing of children, but work and career. She does not have time to do housework. It turns out that soon men themselves will have to take up washing, cleaning and raising children.
A man already on this background can not consider himself the head of the family and breadwinners in the truest sense of the word. The woman is too busy with her work, she does not want to have several children, and hence the low birth rate and ridicule on the part of the woman over the men.
Late marriages in Finland are due to the fact that both men and women primarily seek to obtain a high social status and only then, when they already have some sort of financial platform, they begin to think about starting a family and getting a little settled in the warmth of a home. A family based only on material gain can not be happy, a woman’s desire for independence can not make a family complete.
However, if you reject the material side, the normal Finnish family, which has everything for a normal family life, looks quite attractive. Free time Finnish families spend always together, on weekends they leave the country, or spend time at home for family viewing of good films.
The most important thing in a family is that there are common interests, feelings of unity of spouses and children, mutual respect and love. The main thing in a family is children and their education needs to be given a lot of strength, patience and, of course, love. Without love, it is impossible to educate a kind and intelligent person.
All parents want their child to have an excellent education, to create a family, to have a high position in society and to be a respected person.Finnish parents understand this perfectly well, and knowing that financial resources are necessary for the education and upbringing of children, they do not aspire to have a large offspring.
In Finland, there is a very big difference between farm families and urban families, in which the desire for material goods prevails. In the same families, children join their parents with their parents from childhood, and the physical strength and health of children is much stronger than that of children in urban families, and they receive less psychological trauma.
Farmer families are much larger than urban families. They will never give up the birth of another child, because children bring more joy into everyday life. Despite the fact that excellent conditions are created in Finland, in order to combine work and family life, women and even men are given leave to take care of the child, there are also other programs for young parents.
Urban families are less concerned with family ties and related feelings when families come together and spend merry weekends and holidays. As a consequence, families are stronger in farms and in villages where families spend all their time together both at home and at work and thus become much closer to each other.
As in any other country, in Finland, women bear the greatest responsibility for the upbringing of children, and it is women who take parental leave. In Finland, fathers also spend a lot of time raising their children and more often it is the fathers who walk with children playing and practicing sports with them.
At this time, women are absorbed in their work. However, do not think that women in Finland do not want to do family.
This is not so, because women try to always be near their family whenever possible, and spend all their free time with her. It happens that the family goes in for sports, makes hikes and walks on weekends, and these aspects are the main ones that unite the Finnish healthy family.