In Ethiopia, there are three types of marriage, which in principle can be applied to all other nations. The first type of marriage is when a man chooses a woman, and they begin to live together without any formal registration.
A man brings a woman to her house, gives her money to lead her household. In the event that after a while both understand that they do not have the sense of living together, that they are bored with family life, they can calmly without any problems disperse.
The next type of marriage is civil marriage. In this case, between a man and a woman, something like a marriage contract is drawn up, in which all the nuances are stipulated, all personal belongings of the bride and groom are included in it, as well as the possible consequences of the divorce. Usually at divorce there is an equal division of property between both spouses.
The third type of marriage, the most important is a church marriage. This is an official religious ceremony, which confirms that marriage is really a real and indestructible union of two loving people. Religion has spread widely in Ethiopia, both Christianity and Islam, as well as traditional African beliefs.
In some rural areas, Ethiopia still maintains the customs that marriages occur very early, for girls this happens at the age of 13 or 14, and for men 15-17 years. In cities, this age has become somewhat larger, and young people mostly live not in church marriage, but prefer civil marriage.
Until now, parents mostly seek the bride for their sons, while taking into account the wishes of her parents about what the groom’s condition and his weight in society should be. Wedding traditions in Ethiopia are very similar to the traditions of Russian weddings.
A young man must also come to his bride’s house to ask permission from his parents to marry. After the consent is obtained, the engagement takes place when the groom gives the ring to his bride, presents presents to the parents of his bride and begins preparation for the wedding. At this time, the bride herself prepares a dowry.
In Ethiopia, on the day of the wedding, the groom and his relatives come to the bride’s house, where food is prepared for him. In turn, the groom’s family should also treat the bride’s family in their home.
After the wedding, the young people usually settle in the husband’s house until the parents on both sides can provide the young with a separate dwelling. Only then do young people start their independent life.
Until some time a woman in an Ethiopian family was equated to property, she had to obey in everything to her husband, who was the head of the family, to fulfill all his whims and wishes.
A woman did all the housework, raised children and in every possible way pleased her husband. In rural areas, the man is fully responsible for the work in the fields, and the woman is engaged in collecting the harvested crop.
In Ethiopia, the beginning of family life is the most difficult time for both spouses, because they need to get used to the fact that they are now a single whole. Often happens that it is at the first stage of living together that young wives run away from their husband’s house and return to their parents’ house, but they are returned by agreement between both families and the couple themselves, and the girl returns to her husband.
This situation changes after the first child appears in the family, which causes a storm of joyful feelings and is always accompanied by shouts. A pregnant woman in Ethiopia receives a special status: she can not be denied anything, it is necessary to fulfill all her whims and whims.
During pregnancy, a woman should be surrounded only by the most beautiful things and people, she can not see anything ugly and unpleasant, otherwise a child can be born ugly. Also, a woman should work until the very birth, because otherwise a child can be born fat and lazy, and the birth itself can be very difficult.
In Ethiopia, in the first days after the birth of a child, there should be no outsiders to the mother and the baby to avoid the evil eye. On the seventh day a woman can go out with a child to the street for a while, but in front of her must go a husband with a stick in his hands in order to drive away evil spirits from them.
After that, mother and child can be visited by numerous relatives and friends with gifts and congratulations, and the mother can already start fulfilling her duties on the household. It is after the birth of a child that a woman realizes that her life is closely connected with the life of her husband and they are now one family.
Children in Ethiopia are not given a name until most christenings, which for boys usually occur on the fortieth day after birth, and for girls on the eightieth. Until the day the christening mother does not leave her child alone for a minute. The mother does not tear the baby from the breast until 2 years, and sometimes longer.
In Ethiopia, in children, parents are trying to cultivate such traits as respect for their parents and the older generation, honesty and courage. They are trying to be persuaded that the world that surrounds them is inherently hostile, and no one is able to protect children other than their parents.
It is also believed that hunger educates the person in willpower, so always because of the table it is necessary to get up half-starved, to accustom your stomach to that for a long time you could do without food and drink.
The older the sons in Ethiopia become, the more they are affected by the influence of the mother, and after the sons create their families, the mothers can fully take their families under their authority.
Some women get the status of “the mother of all men” and they are then invited to various activities, which are usually not allowed to be present to other women.
Now many women in Ethiopia live a completely different life. Women can now get education, master different professions and after work get a job and take an active part in public life.