Speaking of the modern world, you can see that in virtually all Muslim countries, almost the same thing is happening. Young girls and men are trying to escape from the trappings of traditions and customs and start living the same way as Europeans.
Naturally, this desire is understandable, and it should be maintained in the sense that we should all keep pace with the times, and not be in the same darkness as our ancestors and, perhaps, our parents, grandparents lived.
However, the desire to start a new life more often leads to the fact that all the ideas about a normal and full-fledged family break down, traditions that have been stored for many years are lost. It’s still a disrespect to our ancestors and the older generation, who diligently passed on their knowledge to us.
No one argues with the fact that many Muslim laws are very categorical and strict, but Islam is one of the oldest religions and one should appreciate what has been stored for so long. However, if you look into different countries and pay attention to the customs of the Muslim family, then there are quite significant differences between this or that nation.
No country has such a custom as in Albania, which boils down to the fact that women make a vow of celibacy, remain virgins for their whole life and replace a man in a family. If we consider that Muslims are peculiar to women, such a custom really goes beyond understanding.
The whole point is that Albania has always been at war with neighboring states throughout its history. Naturally, in every family there was a shortage of men who would take on all the serious work that requires physical strength.
Albanian families were numerous, so the absence of a man was very noticeable. In order to put things in order in the family, where some women who start complaining about the difficult fate, it is necessary that someone in the house with a very strong character and spirit should be present.
This situation in the Albanian family, when strong men participate in hostilities, has led to the emergence of such a custom that one of the older women in the family decides to remain for the whole virgin life, not to marry and take on a family in the family duties.
All male work falls on the shoulders of this woman, who completely changes her way of life. She begins to wear men’s clothes, cuts her hair and even her temper becomes more rigid.
From the outside – this is an ordinary man, strong, courageous, ready to solve any problem that does everything to ensure that the family does not need anything. There is no mention of any gender change here and that a large percentage of male hormones simply play in a woman. This is completely irrelevant, because it is an independent choice of a woman who deprives herself of all the joys of life.
At the nearest communication – this is a very interesting, sociable person who is always ready to support the conversation. With these Albanian women you can talk about everything, and she is always ready to listen. These women remain the role of a man in the family for the rest of their lives, and all other members of the family obey them exactly as the owner of the house.
In the modern world, such women do not look with disapproval, just with some mistrust. Modern youth in Albania, absolutely do not adhere to those rules and customs that have not been canceled.
The freedom that today’s young people receive, many women use too much. Young people who have been brought up for a long time in abstinence, are now succumbing to their passions and doing one stupid after another.
Relationships with marriage and the family, which have always been of great importance to the Albanians, go to the very last plan. At first they think only of their desires and needs and only then that it is still necessary to observe the norms.
At a time when premarital relationships were banned, the family had more trust.At present, the more connections a man and a woman have, the more they distrust each other.
Many young people can live together for a very long time before deciding to marry or simply to diverge, because there is no understanding between them. The modern world is being broken up by young people who understand everything literally and go over all the limits of prohibitions.
Freedom, which is currently given to women in Albania, is very attractive for women. Many, brought up by tradition, women initially succumb to the opportunities and temptations that they open up to, but after some time they realize that all the same old traditions and customs bind the family much more tightly than freedom in relationships and permissiveness.
It is now very difficult to regain what was several years ago, because young people have felt the difference. Before, no young Albanian or Albanian could even think of linking their lives with a man of a different nationality, a different mentality. It is necessary that the spouses come to each other in the inner world, which today they do not pay attention at all, giving in to a second impulse of passion.
There are also Albanian families dominated by women instead of men and they try to protect their family from what is happening, try to remind them of national and spiritual traditions. They do everything possible, although this does not always work and sometimes the younger generation gets out of control.
However, in such families there are far fewer liberties and problems of relationships, because each member of the family carefully preserves what is associated with family values and traditions.
Everyone can observe from the side, which sometimes can lead to too much freedom in thoughts and actions, when satisfaction of one’s needs comes first. It is worthwhile to think about whether it is really necessary to immediately rush into the pool with your head when the world opens so many things.