Today people are divided into extroverts and introverts. In psychology, this characterizes personality traits. For the first time about introversion and extraversion, Karl Jung began to speak. If the first feature is characterized by friendliness, talkativeness and vigorous behavior, the second is manifested in closed seclusion.
There are many articles on the Internet about how to behave with introverts, how to better establish contact with them than they live. From these positions it seems that extroverts and problems do not have any.
However, the stereotypical image of super-sociable people, easily stepping through pain and resentment and unthinking, is mistaken. Extraversion is interesting no less than introversion. And even the emerging myths about extroverts experts correct, arguing about the true state of affairs. Extraverts require a lot of attention.
The desire to constantly be in sight and bathe in the attention of many people take for arrogance and arrogance. But do not be confused in these matters. Any extrovert is required for the comfort of an environment of pleasant and intimate people. They do not need to spend time alone, but it’s much more interesting to do this among friends. There’s nothing to pull attention to.
Extroverts will always be happy to talk to anyone.
Do not take these people as unbridled chatterboxes. Sometimes they also want to shut up, and sometimes the interlocutor is not one with whom you want to open up. The image of a sociable person even hinders – sometimes you do not want to communicate and spend time on empty conversations, which the mood does not have. To believe that extroverts will always be happy to talk is tantamount to the view that introverts always want to read books.
Extroverts are not at all refined natures.
It is believed that such delicate things as literature and art are better discussed with refined introverts, who are knowledgeable about this. Extroverts, with their craving for noisy fun, seem superficial. In fact, their vital energy allows you to visit more specialized resources, learn more about some events, listen to various points of view. The resource of oral communication allows you to get the information that the introvert because of its closedness will be unavailable. The superficiality of extroverts is in fact multifaceted and curious. There are no specialists who understand simultaneously all the issues. Introverts prefer to study deeply a limited range of topics, and extroverts cover a large area of questions, but they do it less deeply. Each of the options for knowing the world has its pros and cons.
Extroverts are always in a good mood.
Extraverts are ordinary people who can feel, including experiencing and not the best emotions. It is a mistake to believe that every day such people have a holiday. With them, there are failures, problems in relationships, at work, general dissatisfaction with business. And it really spoils the mood, and the love of communication here has absolutely nothing to do with it. This is a significant difference from introverts. Those can be gloomy, even in a good mood. Against this background, extroverts look funny, but only due to the effect of comparison.
Extroverts are not interested in the reaction of others around them.
According to this myth, the extrovert is so open to the world that it does not have time to notice the reaction of others, considering it unimportant. In fact, both disapproval and praise for him will be appropriate. For an extrovert, recognition and power are important incentives, much more than for introverts. But sometimes, for the sake of maintaining the overall positive attitude in the company, he would prefer not to notice the causticity in his address.
Communication with extroverts is really tiring.
Extraverts can be tedious, like all other people. They are really concerned that everyone around is comfortable. And usually people are thankful for such an atmosphere and support. But periodically this form of communication turns out to be inappropriate, seeming obtrusive.We consider being in a good company a natural matter, but the inappropriate attention of a person is remembered. And introverts can also tire no less. They may seem boring, deepening into one topic. To other people this may seem already uninteresting.
It is worth to distinguish sociability and talkativeness. A classical extrovert is not a chatterbox and a chatterbox, but an interesting thoughtful person with a deep inner world. It will be easy to establish contact with him, and he just will not talk like that. These people carefully absorb everything that is happening around them, they will certainly notice if someone is not interested in them. Extraverts may seem intolerant to the chatty, since the topics of conversation may lack depth. But these people can tell a lot about real life, which you will not read about in books. Extraverts comprehend the world through communication. During the conversation, they begin to better understand what is at stake. But introverts prefer to first study the topic in detail, and then talk about it. So “talkativeness” is only a kind of thinking style.
Extroverts adore parties.
At parties and in noisy companies, extroverts are really easier to find than introverts. However, this does not mean that all open people adore such events. In life there are many other interesting things, and not just dances and fun. Many extroverts find themselves at parties not at their own volition, but for the sake of their friends’ company. New acquaintances and communication can energize. Extraverts generally feel good in such conditions. However, physiology does not necessarily determine behavior. So sometimes people choose other forms of recreation, not necessarily inherent in the classical temperament.
Extroverts adapt easily to new conditions.
It seems that an extrovert should not become the soul of any company. After all, he easily gets new acquaintances, chooses universal themes, winning friends. But this is not so. The company may be simply unfriendly, and even trite uninteresting. Yes, and the team can be closed, consisting of some (oh, horror!), Introverts. This situation will cause the extroverk discomfort, while the introvert itself is always ready for it. In any case, the extrovert will try to start communicating, to see whether he is interested and interesting.
Extroverts are not interested in what their interlocutor thinks.
Again, the myth represents an extrovert, as a person, endlessly chatting about something of his own. In fact, he is interested in the whole world, and the interlocutor himself. Communication is very important for extroverts, so they try to sincerely support the conversation, being interested in human problems. And these cases may even be more important and more interesting than their own. The difference is also in the expression of interest in the conversation. If introverts begin to speak quietly and listen more, which is easy to take for attention, then extroverts begin to be excited, raise their voices and gesture. This is easily mistaken for aggression. Introverts tend to cooperate, and extroverts – to compete. In a conversation these people try to convince their interlocutor. At the same time, the extroverts jump so quickly from the topic that the same introverts do not have time to express themselves. They think that their opinion is neglected and it is not interesting.